So tired.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but I have to vent. I know this forum isnmeant for us to support each other nonmatter what the situation, but I'm really sicknof seeIng people who've only been TTC for a few months, have no known issues and are really young peppering this forum with silly questions that could best best be answered in the expectant moms forum. Why ask women who've never been pregnant if they might be pregnant? Take the erring test or ask someone who is pregnant! Don't ask about the best OB here, many of us don't know!

I don't mean to be bitchy, but it really wears me down and feels like people are trying to shOw off their ability to conceive. I'm probably just bitter.

[Anonymous]

OP here: sorry for the typos, but my keyboard is acting up!

[Anonymous]

You do sound a little bitter, but it's understandable. Breathe. Relax.

TTC is not just for women who have IF issues. It's for everyone on the journey to conceive.

It's very tempting sometimes to feel like a failure when you can't conceive, and you see others who do so more easily as "the enemy." I've been there. A lot of us have been there. You're not a failure, and they are not the enemy. Hopefully you will have these same questions one day, and will need a supportive community for all TTC (not just IF) when that happens.

Best of luck to you, and keep your spirits up.

[Anonymous]

Op, I hear you (but also agree with pp). I have to say, the "am I pregnant?" one was irritating just because it was something that could so easily be answered by taking a test, rather than polling anonymous folks online. (as you can see I'm a tad bitter myself!).

[Anonymous]

OP I agree with you, my IF journey has been LONG, but I'm also guilty of sharing good news when we got our first BFP, but I realize the pain some are still in so I moved to the expectant Moms forum, but I spent so long on this one that I can't help lurking here. I hope you get some good news soon.

[Anonymous]

Envy the only sin that doesn't feel good. But you are in good company.

[Anonymous]

This is a Ttc forum. Ask for an infertility one if questions like the ones you mentioned bother you.
I remember being bashed a couple years ago for asking about gender conceptions myths.
A year and a half and 3 miscarriages later, I wouldn't be bitter and get pissed at someone askin the same question or asking about possible pg symptoms.
Deal with it.

[Anonymous]

I also want to add that these posters probably have no idea what mostly goes on in this forum. If you have never read it, it is difficult to assume it is mainly filled with I fertility posts. It was the case for me, it wasn't until I started frequenting I that I understood what went on here

[Anonymous]

does it make sense to have a forum called "Fertility issues" instead? maybe the 'Am I pregnant" posters can have their ?s answered on the expectant board. just a thought. i do think there are two diferent groups of folks on this board. THose who have decided to go for it and just have general pregnancy questions, and those who have experienced difficulty getting pregnant or are actively going through fertility treatments, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I don't mean to be bitchy, but it really wears me down and feels like people are trying to shOw off their ability to conceive. I'm probably just bitter.

If you think anyone is trying to "show off their ability to conceive", yes, I think you're quite bitter. But, it's your right to be bitter if that's how you feel.

[Anonymous]

I've been trying to conceive for the past 4 years and questions about pregnancy symptoms or other "silly" questions of this kind don't bother me. It's a public forum, so people can post whatever they think is fit. It's not their intent to offend anyone, they are just looking for information. They dont' know that this forum is full of desperate women (myself including) who went to the hell and back trying to have a baby and still no luck. Let's just be sensitive and supportive of each other.

[washingtonian]

I made a post in this thread about looking for a good ob gyn in Alexandria. I am not yet pregnant, but I am trying to conceive, so when I saw the thread it seemed a perfect place for my post. I think changing the thread's title to "fertility issues" would make it more clear to those of us who are new to the forum.

Sorry, and good luck to all aspiring moms!

[Anonymous]

OP - it may not be the poster's fault - the post could have been moved. I am trying to conceive #2 and had a question about most fertile times - I included the fact that it was our first month trying - and posted in off topic. I was horrified to learn the next morning that my post had been moved here. So I went to the website forum and asked Jeff to either move it to expectant moms or delete it since I had gotten some helpful answers already. I felt uncomfortable having my post in this forum given some of the titles that were on the same page as my thread (Jeff deleted it soon after).

If I have more questions in the next few months I will not post on off topic, I will post in expectant moms (I currently lurk on this forum every few days because there is some useful info and I am AMA so I'm trying to be aggressive as possible and not waste any months).

Anyway I agree with other posters - their should be a separate "infertility support" forum.

[Anonymous]

And you can always opt not to read a post that might irritate you....you don't HAVE to read every post.

[Anonymous]

washingtonian wrote:I made a post in this thread about looking for a good ob gyn in Alexandria. I am not yet pregnant, but I am trying to conceive, so when I saw the thread it seemed a perfect place for my post. I think changing the thread's title to "fertility issues" would make it more clear to those of us who are new to the forum.

Sorry, and good luck to all aspiring moms!

OP here. You didn't do anything wrong; I was just feeling a bit beaten down by life. Good luck to you as well.

Thank you to everyone who responded with sympathy. I'm not envious, and I do realize this forum is not for IF issues exclusively.