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Anonymous
| I have been spending time on both the independent school forum and the expectant moms forum, both of which are relevant to our family. The expectant moms forum feels like a community of people who are truly trying to help each other. This forum is full of people being disrespectful and often rude to each other. Why the hostility? What happens once someone goes from expecting a child to having a child who goes to, or is thinking about going to, an independent school? The independent school forum should take a lesson from the expectant moms forum and start treating posters with respect and kindness. |
Anonymous
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I agree OP. But I don't think it's limited to the private school forum. The bitchiness starts the minute people start to make decisions about their children. All of a sudden, it becomes important to defend these decisions, and maybe in the process to say that others' decisions are inferior. Take a look at the breast feeding/bottle feeding debate, for example.
But I agree the private school forum is especially mean spirited. I'm convinced half of it is in jest. |
Anonymous
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Oh they do have fights when they list baby names that they do not like.
Funny people. Someone wants to name their daughter Desmond, another is worried sick because at preg. week 29 they have not descided on a name |
Anonymous
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I also agree with OP and 21:44.
I am always amazed at how bent out of shape and critical people get on this forum. But also notice that in DCUM in general - there are those "hot buttons" that get pused that set off a firestorm. I cringe when I see some new unsuspecting soul bring up something RE: stay at home vs working, cry it out vs not, nursing vs not (or X months vs Y) - and here X school vs Y school, or trying to find a fit for a kid who is an outlier on the top end of the spectrum (aka that horrible word "gifted"). I thought this was a community where we help each other - not judge one another! If you are offended by someone's request or someone's "choice" is way different than your own - then be polite and keep it to yourself. We all are trying to make the best decisions for ourselves and our families...and we are all different...so let's accept that and move on. Help when you can and accept differences when you can't! |
Anonymous
Not to mention the trolls - the private school has more than it's fair share of these! 1. Private school students who come here to bash other private schools (some have even identified themselves in their posts - I've seen Sidwell and GDS posters represented, sure to be many more). 2. Anti-Landon posters 3. Anti-Sidwell football team poster(s?) 4. Mater Dei anti-catholic poster 5. Alexandria Academy nutcase (seriously deranged sock puppet) 6. Parents whose kid didn't get into a given private so they feel a need to trash that particular private 7. Parents who come on here to boast about their kid's high test scores (hello? we all have kids with high test scores) 8. Big-3 vs. Big 5 or Big 10 debate (please include my school!) Have I missed anybody? |
Anonymous
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Hey, you missed me
I decided to not applyt to a private because of this forum and realized I and my kids would never fit into that society. I read this now for entertainment purposes, and am grateful to be missing out on some of your 'fun' |
Anonymous
| Expectant mom makes a 99.9 percentile whoopi and wpssi on the DCUM private school forum board. |
Anonymous
| That's because expectant moms have no idea how much the judging of others is a part of parenthood in this area... |
Anonymous
Don't you think that is a bit extreme? I admit, the people on the private school boards are, well, a bit nuts, but it is SUCH a small minority of the families attending the NUMEROUS private schools out there. "That society" is varied and quite often, very friendly! I am a private school mom, and I am welcoming and pretty laid-back! |
Anonymous
| Giving birth is a walk in the park compared to getting your kid into Harvard. No wonder this forum is insane! |
Anonymous
An odd decision making process, but hey, as my (private school) English teacher used to say: "It takes all kinds", said the farmer, as he kissed the cow. I loved that teacher! |
Anonymous
| I don't know, the Off Topic forum is getting insane these days. |
Anonymous
I felt emotionally sick after spending 10 minutes reading through the Off Topic forum when I first found DCUM. This forum is marginally better, if you're willing to sift through the garbage to find the gems of useful information. Frankly, I don't see anything wrong with people having to register (they wouldn't have to use their real names), if only so people can more quickly identify the trolls. But, it ain't my forum. . . |
Anonymous
Is that a private school teacher? Well, the local public is excellent. We do not have the income for the private. I do not think getting financial aid is that straightforward. We could maybe get some, not a lot. And I would be paying a high price for my child to feel out of place because she does not come from money. And that is a lot to pay for, when in return the education in the end will not be that much better than what my ds is getting now |