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Anonymous
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If someone you know lives in a new house, do you (subconsciously of otherwise) feel/think you deserve one too? Do you think you deserve whatever they have? I realized something the other day, and it started me thinking......
If we see someone with something we want (whether we realize it or not), are we "more okay" infringing upon them? As if they have nothing to lose and we do? Would we admit it? |
Anonymous
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I'm not sure I understand your question. Can you be more specific about what you mean by "infringing upon them"?
Also, if you mean "new construction" when you say "new house", it's definitely a no for me. I like old houses. |
Anonymous
| I think you are asking two different things. But I'm not sure. Could you be more clear on what you want to know? |
Anonymous
| Well, I see a lot of talk of McMansions on this board. I don't have one, but lots of people I know live in new homes, and they are sometimes treated differently than my friends who are not in new homes. For example, if not all of the neighbors have new homes. Is it more acceptable for the neighbors to infringe on those with new homes, somehow? Do certain neighbors think nothing of infringing on those with what they perceive to be nicer things? |
Anonymous
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If by infringe, do you mean spend time with, ask favors of, hang out [in the house], etc.? I think that's making an assumption about the home owners (if you don't know them well).
But, if you are speaking generally to possibly re-evaluating your own wants and needs based on others' home situations i.e. most of your friends have recently bought a new house, so you start to think you deserve one / should get one now also, then I would say flat out, no, that you never know someone's situation. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| LOL no. How weird. |
Anonymous
| Rather than being jealous of those in new-construction McMansions, I tend to pity them. Poor things -- no imagination, no handyman skills, no established community, no walkable errands, no individuality. But lots and lots of empty square footage to clean. |
Anonymous
| This can't be a real post. WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT??? Dear Mr. and Ms. McMansion, you have a crazy neighbor. Keep your blinds closed and pets inside. Jeez. |
Anonymous
| I might hope that the person with the big/new house would host a party, because they have the space, but that's about it. |
Anonymous
Your logic is flawed and your "pity" is transparent and makes me feel bad for you. In fact you are probably the exact type of person OP is talking about. I am definitely slightly jealous when someone has a beautiful home, but it doesn't cause me to stack up their lives against mine to make sure I still have the advantage in other areas. Life isn't always equal but if you're comfortable with what you've got you don't have to worry so much about other people. |
Anonymous
| I like our house, and moving/major renovations are both huge, huge pains in the butt - so I might admire someone's new home, but no, it doesn't make me want one too. |
Anonymous
Yeah, you sound pretty pitiful yourself. And no, I don't like in a McMansion. |
Anonymous
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I generally feel a bit of envy when my peers have better houses than me, but it passes after a bit. I never thought to "infringe" on them in any way. I try to never infringe on anyone. I just figure their life circumstances and choices are different from my own.
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Anonymous
| I never get jealous of anyone with a nicer house than me....and many have them. I am reasonably sure that I have more money than them, so that's good enough. |