Why is this so hard? Why can't I be rational?

[Anonymous]

I'm dying here. We've been TTC for nearly 2 years now and I just found out that my SIL and BIL are TTC their 2nd child. I'm dying inside about the prospect that she will end up pregnant before me. And I KNOW she will. Why am I so jealous? Further, she has no idea what it's like for me. She makes comments like, "just relax, it will happen" or "as soon as you stop stressing is when it happens". Um, no. I have endo. But thanks for those very helpful works. Anyway, sorry. I just need to vent.

[Anonymous]

Vent away. That's what we're here for. And pick up Alice Domar's mind-body book. It might help you deal with "happy" announcements from friends and family. Personally, I start avoiding those people, but she has a healthier way

[Anonymous]

I lived the situation you fear and now my next worst fear is coming true -- she's having her second before I am even pregnant wtih my first. Emotion isn't rational. Most people don't "get it" when it comes to IF. So, come to this board when you need to feel like you aren't the only one. We "get it."

[Anonymous]

To clarify -- I mean she will actually give birth before I am even pregnant. I thought surely I'd be pregnant before she hit 9months. NOPE!

[Anonymous]

Go ahead and vent. While DH and I were going through our IF journey there were friends and family who got married after we did and got pregnant before us. I would cry whenever there was a new announcement - so much that DH stopped telling me about "we're expecting" announcements. People who haven't gone through our journey don't always get it... but we get it.