Lisa Ling

[Anonymous]

Anyone else turned off by her? I read her story thinking "wow" someone else who is struggling and then I read that she got pregnant almost asap and then had a loss at seven weeks when they still didn't have a heartbeat. I don't know. It just doesn't ring true for me esp. as she "released" this info with her new website vehicle. Maybe I am jaded but I thought mmmm no.

[Anonymous]

Huh?

[Anonymous]

I've always found her completely annoying and full of herself. Never got the appeal.

[Anonymous]

Amen to that. This just looks like her trying to "play upset" while there are people who have been trying a long long time or/and have had many many miscarriages and some late some stillborn. I don't think she gets how "dumb" she looks when she is trying to "connect" with people saying I was so depressed over my miscarriage. Maybe she is upset actually but she doesn't understand how insensitive she comes across..this is her problem esp. when she is pimping out a new website.

[Anonymous]

I disagree completely.

I thought it was somewhat refreshing and honest for a celeb to say these things about miscarriage and infertility, especially when you look at all the 40+ moms who make it all look so easy, when it is NOT that way in real life.

I had to do IVF and it is very normal for me, but it is still "weird" for much of the world. It was nice to see some frank discussion.. and if it supports her website or doesn't hurt it, I'd say that is a good thing too, since there has in the past been a stigma to all of these things.

[Anonymous]

It's not about a stigma it's about her saying how depressed she was and how hard when a) she conceived right away b) had a fairly early miscarriage. Then goes on about how it inspired her to launch her site--this seems more like an opportunity for a career vehicle than actually candor.

[Anonymous]

As someone wh has had early miscarriages and felt depressed as a result, I really do not understand this thread. Lisa Ling is insensitive? This thread is insensitive.

[Anonymous]

Such is the attitude of the privileged. She wasn't as "sincere" when her sister was in jail in N Korea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone wh has had early miscarriages and felt depressed as a result, I really do not understand this thread. Lisa Ling is insensitive? This thread is insensitive.

I agree 100%. Just because some people have had a truly tougher path, it doesn't mean her feelings and experience weren't genuine.

This way of thinking is unfortunately all too common on DCUM. The "Somebody Has It Worse Than You, So You Have No Right To Complain" mindset is both insensitive and unsupportive.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I'm not a Lisa Ling fan and too find her annoying but as someone who has lost several pregnancies both early and late, I can't believe you would belittle someone's pain because it wasn't painful enough by your standards. (Just how long would she have hat to try to conceive or how far into the pregnancy to justify her sadness?) I wish miscarriages were more openly discussed so people would be more sensitive to the private grieving so many women face. (And maybe not say things like, boy, you better hurry up and have another baby!) But, considering the response on this thread it sounds like there would still be plenty of insensitivity.

[Anonymous]

A miscarriage experienced at any time, by any one is painful and should only be met with sympathy and support. We can play the who has it worse game all day long, but we're not going to get anywhere doing it. We're all struggling here and the least we can do is support one another.

I say this as someone TTC #1 for 18 mo. with not so much as a chemical pregnancy so far.