Divorce Regret

[Anonymous]

Do you regret your divorce? If so, why?

[Anonymous]

I am not divorced, but I suspect there are some out there who have regrets, especially when the next new thing is not so nice.

[Anonymous]

My sister regrets her divorce. They were very young and my parents really hated him. He was truly immature (he grew in height after they got married). He was rebellious and intent on getting at my parents. They encouraged her to split. The thing is that SHE liked HIM, but she was unable to separate her feelings from theirs. They were too selfish to allow her to do that. She never found a suitable replacement, and I think that saddens her.

[Anonymous]

My sister did but I don't think her ex did because she is impossible to be around and it must have been hell living with her.

I also think people get married with the idea if things don't work out they can get a divorce and they feel no need to work on the relationship. I do believe in pre-marital counselling because during that estatic period of falling in love, it is a form of insanity and you need to know how to come down to earth and reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister did but I don't think her ex did because she is impossible to be around and it must have been hell living with her.

I also think people get married with the idea if things don't work out they can get a divorce and they feel no need to work on the relationship. I do believe in pre-marital counselling because during that estatic period of falling in love, it is a form of insanity and you need to know how to come down to earth and reality.

Really?

[Anonymous]

Really.

That was my ridiculously naive Plan B. I had NOOOOOOOO idea how much work goes into a relationship. And my guy is one of the good ones!

Parenthood was a different story. That, I knew, would be constant work.

[Anonymous]

I regret the necessity of having to get divorced, but I don't regret leaving. One person can't make a relationship work if the other isn't trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regret the necessity of having to get divorced, but I don't regret leaving. One person can't make a relationship work if the other isn't trying.

I agree. My experience, too.

[Anonymous]

Oh hell NO! No regrets here because my ex was MORE than a handful:
He was addicted to porn
He was sinking in debt yet wasting money
He was lazy
He was fat
He was a cheat
He was 36 years old and we lived with his horrible, nagging,greedy mom!

Geeze.... I don't know what I was thinking when I married him! Thank goodness for divorce or I would still be miserable and stuck with this LOOSER!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you regret your divorce? If so, why?

No never!

[Anonymous]

Nope. In fact, just spent Thanksgiving with my ex and ex-in-laws (we're civil and co-parenting), and it was very reaffirming.

Hurray for and thank you to second wave feminism!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh hell NO! No regrets here because my ex was MORE than a handful:
He was addicted to porn
He was sinking in debt yet wasting money
He was lazy
He was fat
He was a cheat
He was 36 years old and we lived with his horrible, nagging,greedy mom!

Geeze.... I don't know what I was thinking when I married him! Thank goodness for divorce or I would still be miserable and stuck with this LOOSER!

Wow, this was a lot.

[Anonymous]

I'm not divorced but I sure as heck am glad my parents are. My dad wasn't a present father and very abused us in ways he didn't even realize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister did but I don't think her ex did because she is impossible to be around and it must have been hell living with her.

I also think people get married with the idea if things don't work out they can get a divorce and they feel no need to work on the relationship. I do believe in pre-marital counselling because during that estatic period of falling in love, it is a form of insanity and you need to know how to come down to earth and reality.

Really?

NP. I had 2 different friends say those exact words to me before they got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. In fact, just spent Thanksgiving with my ex and ex-in-laws (we're civil and co-parenting), and it was very reaffirming.

Hurray for and thank you to second wave feminism!

I think it's pretty awesome that you spent Thanksgiving with ex and ex-in-laws. Though it reaffirmed your decision to divorce, it seems like you really make the effort to maintain a cordial relationship with them, and I imagine that is HUGELY beneficial to your kid(s). Really, your post makes me smile. (I realize not all ex-couples can achieve this...it takes TWO to make it work...but for those wherein it is in the realm of possibilty....how wonderful.)