for those that got pregnant while they "took a break"....

[Anonymous]

For those that say they finally got pregnant when they stopped trying for a few cycles or stopped the fertility treatments, etc. When you say you stopped trying do you mean you had BD whenever and just totally let it go the whole month or did you still chart and/or use OPKs, but tried to remain more calm and relaxed about it. I am just curious what exactly is meant by "when we took a break" or "when we stopped trying". Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I was pissed off (doctor's office had messed up my referral, so was facing another month delay in getting testing) and charted/checked nothing. We still had sex about every other day, though, and I had just started taking prescription vitamin D. I expected nothing and only took a test because we were going to a party and I wanted to be totally comfortable drinking A LOT.

To be fair to what most of you are going through, I only squeaked into an infertility diagnosis by turning 35. It had been 10 months of trying, which is still within average range (we learned). To be fair to myself, I had just really faced and processed that it wasn't working and that it might not ever, which was really hard; it was at the holidays and I'd really hoped to have something to tell our families. And, I had just cracked and told my mother and a few close friends all about the struggle when 2 weeks later I was pregnant.

[Anonymous]

I definitely gave it my best shot on my "break" cycle. I continued charting, I used OPKs, I took robitussin and drank grapefruit juice for CM, and I made sure we BD during my fertile time. I also started taking CoQ10, but that takes a few months to work so I'm not sure if it could have helped. And, after 3 consecutive cycles of clomid, I just felt a whole lot better mentally & physically not being on any drugs. We were supposed to start IVF the next month.

[Anonymous]

We did nothing. It was actually our first month of "not trying" for #2 - we were waiting for our IVF appointment -when one night I woke up at 3AM super horny (this virtually never happens to me) and at first I was just going to ignore it b/c I wanted to go back to sleep. Then I realized that we were roughly within the window, so I figured we might as well give it a shot. And what do you know, that was it. We literally only had sex three or four times that entire month, because we were (or at least I was) exhausted after all the "trying". FWIW, #1 was IVF w ICSI after over a year of trying. I was 32 at the time.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the stories. I am TTC #2 for well over a year now and with "unexplained infertility". Just had my first IUI with clomid fail and in Oct. did timed BD with clomid. We are "taking a break" for a few months in terms of the RE route. I think in late spring-early fall we may head back down that road, but it is alot. Very interesting though to say the least how things happen sometimes. Thanks again.

[Anonymous]

Really, I don't think I fit into your question...but here is my story.

We had infertility for 5 years...tons of intervention...but I had complicating issues of advanced maternal age and a somewhat wonky cycle. We went through 2 medicated IUIs and 3 IVFs before we miraculously got pregnant with our genetically healthy b/g twins. (I say genetically healthy because we did have an IVF loss due to T18). We were done, in our books.

So, we are parents of twin toddlers, we are exhausted most of the time...so suffice it to say...we don't get around to enjoying each others company very much. But despite all that, despite the years of infertility and the so called wonky cycles...I got pregnant last month.

The pregnancy was not viable, blighted ovum. Not a surprise given my age (44 yo). BUT...we managed to overcome a crazy cycle, almost no sex (one time, in apparently the fertile window), and the sheer exhaustion of parenthood...to get me pregnant again.

Crazy...and the nurses in the RE's office chalked it up to NOT trying. (My RE kept his speculations to himself! LOL)

[Anonymous]

I am sorry...the above post is supposed to read:
"I say genetically healthy because we did have an IVF loss due to T18"...I hate the automatic emoticons.