Feeling controlled by monthly cycle

[Anonymous]

I know I have other things I could be doing on a Saturday night (!), but this observation has come to me and I feel I want to share/hear feedback ... Do others also find themselves almost being controlled by their monthly cycle? So, there's lots of anticipation of the fertile window, with possible action or not, depending on timing, work, etc etc. Then, that passes, and (if applicable) one then does testing and/or time just moves to the next period. When looking to the next month, first thing I'll do is see when the next anticipated fertile days will fall, and then check my calendar for have any travel/work obligations that may coincide. (Same then for seeing when my next period falls. It's an interesting thing that many times my period will fall exactly during the time I have to travel (work or vacation)! Great, huh!)

Anyway, I'm sure none of this is new ... It just struck me how (self-)controlled I seem to be. I know "they say" that it's best to relax, just live, enjoy everything. I'm sure for those with one child already, possibly on top of work obligations too, life is so chaotic that analyzing as I do is not even possible. Thanks for reading/sharing.

[Anonymous]

Uh, yes. It was WAY worse for me when I was on meds and doing various ARTs because then your life can seem officially only about baby making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh, yes. It was WAY worse for me when I was on meds and doing various ARTs because then your life can seem officially only about baby making.

This was my experience as well. We cancelled vacations, holiday trips, etc. because of the ever moving egg retrieval dates...that really made life feel like it was all about my busted baby maker. Not to mention injecting all those hormones into your system makes you feel not quite yourself sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh, yes. It was WAY worse for me when I was on meds and doing various ARTs because then your life can seem officially only about baby making.

This was my experience as well. We cancelled vacations, holiday trips, etc. because of the ever moving egg retrieval dates...that really made life feel like it was all about my busted baby maker. Not to mention injecting all those hormones into your system makes you feel not quite yourself sometimes.

YES! Me too. My life revolved around my cycles, CD3 blood draws, injection and monitoring dates. It sucked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I have other things I could be doing on a Saturday night (!), but this observation has come to me and I feel I want to share/hear feedback ... Do others also find themselves almost being controlled by their monthly cycle? So, there's lots of anticipation of the fertile window, with possible action or not, depending on timing, work, etc etc. Then, that passes, and (if applicable) one then does testing and/or time just moves to the next period. When looking to the next month, first thing I'll do is see when the next anticipated fertile days will fall, and then check my calendar for have any travel/work obligations that may coincide. (Same then for seeing when my next period falls. It's an interesting thing that many times my period will fall exactly during the time I have to travel (work or vacation)! Great, huh!)

Anyway, I'm sure none of this is new ... It just struck me how (self-)controlled I seem to be. I know "they say" that it's best to relax, just live, enjoy everything. I'm sure for those with one child already, possibly on top of work obligations too, life is so chaotic that analyzing as I do is not even possible. Thanks for reading/sharing.

I'm a primary infertile and have on DD after IVF. We are TTC#2 and I can assure you that I obsess and analyze just as much this go-around as I did the first time. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

OP writing. Thanks for writing, everyone. I should have known it wasn't just me .... It just feels really isolating sometimes, and then hearing news from here or there of others expecting or baby already arrived. I know, nothing new here.