Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
1. Ditto above about getting the parental anxiety management piece controlled. Kid is anxious enough and I 100% made it worse with my anxiety.
2. Tied into above I think kid undershot with their ED because of all the anxiety. Should have trusted Scoir but instead believed the hype that everything post covid/TO made schools impossible.
3. Still continuation of above, SERIOUSLY weigh pros and cons of ED. You get a bump but it’s at a big cost of not weighing options come April. As a PP mentioned do not be surprised when your kid evolves and changes their preferences during this process. My kid did and rewrote 80% of his list in October senior year. Then got in his ED. I can’t help but wonder if he was in the midst of a sort of mental/character growth spurt and if he had kept his options open through RD it might have led him to different conclusions as he matured and evolved. But once admitted to the ED everything stopped. It is what it is. And he is in to an amazing school but if we could do it all over I’d argue against any ED.
It's a REALLY tough call. For every parent I know who feels like they undershot ED or their DC might have made a different choice, I know at least one who regrets not choosing a realistic ED and being done with the process.
Another way of thinking about it: There's really no way to know which college is best for your kid without actually attending said college. You're always making this decision in a void. So why prolong the process?
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