It says in the brief she went to Penn. |
It’s bogus though. These schools that “don’t rank” use code words like “outstanding / excellent / very good” in the letter to let you know which 5th of the class each kid is in. I did medical residency admissions decisions and every medical school that “doesn’t rank” did this and so did their teacher recommendations. |
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Same here. Big 3 parent. We listened and nodded nicely at college office but we used outside resource to shape a list. It was hard to get kid to not listen to office. List school generated had no stretch at EA/ED for instance. Was wrong on types of settings kid wanted. Another parent who had been through this with a few kids at same school said “just use the office for the things you need. Manage the rest as a parent with your child”. It was good advice. And not very popular here where our school college office gets positive reviews from some vocal patents. Others disagree. Here’s the thing - college office means well but incentives are slightly different than the kid’s and yours. The office wants every kid to have multiple acceptances. Not multiple acceptances at the top school should that even be possible. Just multiple acceptances. Kid and parent want the very best fit at the very best school. So I’ve heard from dozen or more parents at my school that they and kid over rode what they thought was a not aspirational college list. Of course you need to be careful that in 2023, nothing is like it was in early 90s when we all went to college. Northeastern is harder to get into than Princeton was in late 80s. Without a hook, it’s a lottery ticket so you need to know that. And decide whether SCEA or ED is right for your kid and what doors that opens or closes. Use it for stretch aspirational or decide you want it for middle of the road comfort. What we need the office for in realty is some sense of how many kids from our school applying to each college at each cycle. For instance I gather USC is hyper popular at several of the top 3 this year and it will be crazy hard this year. In fact EA there will be 4% admit according to stats USC released. So keep your hopes low there is something a good CC would tell you. Then we need CC to write a nice letter (so always be nice). And to help with edge case stuff when a regional rep needs to be called for something. That’s it. Nothing else. We used outside essay reader too because with staff of 4 or 5 our school office seemed overwhelmed, cursory etc reading essays. Best money we spent in the whole process was that and campus visits/tours. Summary - many of us feel the same way. CC incentive not same as yours.
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I "hear" you on college counselors not being great and agree they shouldn't ED to a school that isn't their first choice. However, please make sure that YOU are listening to your child. Maybe they really love the schools on their list and are not interested in attending the schools you think they should "reach" for. I know several very good students who have chosen a school outside of the T20 as their favorite. These kids will do great at those schools and in life even though they could probably get into a T10 school. |
Do you find that parents are realistic about their kids' chances? It seems like everyone I know at out school thinks that their kid is Ivy or similar material. I know kids with 3.0s applying to Cornell and Dartmouth (with no hook). It seems to work out in the end (the top kids get the top school spots) but doesn't this just clutter it all up for everyone? And how does it work out that everyone seems to get a decent (top 75, often top 50) spot when everyone seems to be applying to the same schools? |
you are right - GDS I believe limits to 10 schools applied to in order to prevent this to some degree. |
Not PP but I don't know kids' GPAs or where they are applying. I did hear where some applied ED (rejected) but don't know their stats. |
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IMO, many parents are not realistic, and just assume, 'my kid is doing well at XXX private schools, so Princeton is a no-brainer"
Bottom line, the high school counselors have a hard time managing expectations of Type A parents who feel their kids are entitled to the T10 or TXX schools. It just doesn't work like that anymore. |
It would help parents be realistic if we had any sense of where our kids’ grades/rigor generally stand compared to classmates but as far as I can tell the private schools don’t share that information with families. |
This. 100% this. |
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It's a catch-22. The college counselors say parents are not being realistic and parents are not being realistic because counselors do not tell them where their students rank.
It's true in my experience (I have one kid that has gone through the process) that the counselors were not really that helpful in identifying the list of schools to apply to nor in reviewing the college essays (less than minimal edits and suggestions). I guess counselors are navigating a challenging environment and this is the best that they can do given the highly uncertain outcomes. |
Unhooked == Not True. |
There are probably 25 students with GPS above 3.8 each year. 10 students with GPA above 3.9. Median GPA is around 3.55. |
PP -- At Sidwell |