The Death of Private School As We Know It

[Anonymous]

It worked for us OP. Send your kids back to public if you do not like private. We loved it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can get the same/better education in public. Go waste money somewhere else.

I bet it's mostly so the parents can brag.

No. You can’t get a better education in public. Come now, you know it. Large classes, behavior issues, metal detectors, no in person school all of last year, the plans to dumb down curriculum so “everyone wins”.

No thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did t send DC for Ivy or near Ivy college experience. Most of the people I know who are successful are from those schools anyway. I sent them there for
1) 13 years of traditional academics and smaller classes
2) 13 years of service and community
3) 13 years of acceptable behavior from classmates
4) once they get into college they will have had the discipline through homework, tests that mean something the first time, accountability for turning things in on time in order to succeed and not be a hot mess as some of friends’ DC have been.

This is so true. We’re now at a Catholic HS after a K-8, and I’d say the focus on behavior, consequences, etc holds true at any private. The lack of discipline in publics is truly problematic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

For about the fifth thread on this topic -- we do not send kids to private to get into a better college. That factors into it zero. Probably would do better if at public. Not why we are there.

DP.. so if you spent $$ on private school, and your kid ends up going to some place like... Salisbury univ, you won't mind at all? Not knocking on Salisbury Univ. I went to a B rated state univ myself. I find it hard to believe that private school parents don't have some minimum expectations for their kids and what colleges they end up at after having spent over a 100K on private school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can get the same/better education in public. Go waste money somewhere else.

I bet it's mostly so the parents can brag.

No. You can’t get a better education in public. Come now, you know it. Large classes, behavior issues, metal detectors, no in person school all of last year, the plans to dumb down curriculum so “everyone wins”.

No thank you.

what public schools near you have metal detectors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With public schools in freefall with all the violence, shootings, stabbings, lack of discipline, drugs, teacher shortages, no classes, half days, and more days off, there’s always going to be a market for private schools.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I pulled my kids from private elementary 3 years ago and put them on a public school path. I live in CA and I could see that private school high school students get dinged.

Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:I teach in a public school and have seen the behind the curtain. It’s just pathetic. We basically beg students to come to school at this point. When they show up, they sleep, play on their phones, socialize. They pass the vast majority of them because it would look bad if too many kids failed. It was bad before the pandemic but it’s really bad now. My kid could go to my school and be the #1 student in the grade. I’d never send him to a public school. I agree that the expectations in private school are so much higher. I work two jobs to send him to private school. I’d work a third job if I needed to.

+1. I spent almost two decades teaching in a public high school. My own children attend a private.

Yes. We went private after some public school teachers confided that their own kids were in private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I teach in a public school and have seen the behind the curtain. It’s just pathetic. We basically beg students to come to school at this point. When they show up, they sleep, play on their phones, socialize. They pass the vast majority of them because it would look bad if too many kids failed. It was bad before the pandemic but it’s really bad now. My kid could go to my school and be the #1 student in the grade. I’d never send him to a public school. I agree that the expectations in private school are so much higher. I work two jobs to send him to private school. I’d work a third job if I needed to.

+1. I spent almost two decades teaching in a public high school. My own children attend a private.

Yes. We went private after some public school teachers confided that their own kids were in private.

As are all the children of politicians…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I teach in a public school and have seen the behind the curtain. It’s just pathetic. We basically beg students to come to school at this point. When they show up, they sleep, play on their phones, socialize. They pass the vast majority of them because it would look bad if too many kids failed. It was bad before the pandemic but it’s really bad now. My kid could go to my school and be the #1 student in the grade. I’d never send him to a public school. I agree that the expectations in private school are so much higher. I work two jobs to send him to private school. I’d work a third job if I needed to.

+1. I spent almost two decades teaching in a public high school. My own children attend a private.

Yes. We went private after some public school teachers confided that their own kids were in private.

and many teachers send their kids to public, in the school district they work at.

If my kid needed smaller class sizes and more hand holding, I would definitely do private, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I teach in a public school and have seen the behind the curtain. It’s just pathetic. We basically beg students to come to school at this point. When they show up, they sleep, play on their phones, socialize. They pass the vast majority of them because it would look bad if too many kids failed. It was bad before the pandemic but it’s really bad now. My kid could go to my school and be the #1 student in the grade. I’d never send him to a public school. I agree that the expectations in private school are so much higher. I work two jobs to send him to private school. I’d work a third job if I needed to.

+1. I spent almost two decades teaching in a public high school. My own children attend a private.

Yes. We went private after some public school teachers confided that their own kids were in private.

As are all the children of politicians…

even the ones who bash elitists. LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I assume if anything, private school will hurt my kids’ chances in college admissions because they will have a lower class ranking. The flip side is they’ll end up better educated and more well-rounded than they would have had they gone to public school, so we’ll take the trade-off.

+1000

They'll also have a much better 13 years of school before going to college. Why people don't understand that that outweighs four years in college I don't know.

I came on to say just this. Come on. Everyone here went to college. It’s not irrelevant to various things, including grad school prospects, and it tends to be fun and somewhat formative. That second point is true wherever a kid goes, so long as it isn’t their parents’ basement. But did anyone here really think the prestige of their college was the make or break for work ethic? Love of learning? Learning to work as a team? Forming your basic values? Those mostly happen before college. Even if some things change in college—political views, etc—they’re changing from a baseline that was already formed. K-12 forms you—far more than college. K-12 is not a mindless path to college.

x1000!

X10000000

This, this, this. 13 years > 4 years.

[Anonymous]

This is NOT NEWS.

our kid is a Ivy legacy and at a top
Private, and is in every AP Class…and even I know she won’t get in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here are the 2021 admissions from a Big3 (does not included multiple admits at many of the schools). Is there one college on this list that you wouldn't be happy that your kid is attending?
Personally I think it's awesome and guarantee that my kid will attend a decent college---never mind that they are also learning to to write well and think critically.

Boston College
Boston University
Brown
Bucknell
Colby
Colgate
William and Mary
Columbia
Cornell
Dartmouth
Davidson
Duke
Emory
Georgetown
Georgia Tech
Harvard
Johns Hopkins
NYU
Northwestern
Oberlin
Princeton
SMU
Stanford
Syracuse
Tufts
Tulane
UCLA
Chicago
Michigan
Penn
Richmond
Sewanee
USC
St. Andrews
UVA
Wisconsin
Vanderbilt
Wake Forest
Washington and Lee
Wash U
Yale

Is this the complete list?

Yes, complete list from alumni magazine this month

this list looks like the list from my nephew's class at a public high school in howard county except it was a bigger class so 2-3 liberty university (shudder) and like 10 to UMD, a few at towson/umbc but a there was at least one kid going to each of these places plus some to slacs. i think there was one person going to Mcgill not St. Andrew but this was river hill high school so i dunno if "big" 3 is worth it for college admissions alone. How prepared you are when you get there is a whole other consideration. . .

River hill?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

For about the fifth thread on this topic -- we do not send kids to private to get into a better college. That factors into it zero. Probably would do better if at public. Not why we are there.

DP.. so if you spent $$ on private school, and your kid ends up going to some place like... Salisbury univ, you won't mind at all? Not knocking on Salisbury Univ. I went to a B rated state univ myself. I find it hard to believe that private school parents don't have some minimum expectations for their kids and what colleges they end up at after having spent over a 100K on private school.

On the contrary. We told our kids they needed to go in-state or get merit because we spent all our money on private schools, which were not the original plan.