Keep Trying on our own or no

[Anonymous]

I am 35, DH is 40. We have had all basic fertility tests done -- 3 day b/w, 21 day b/w, ultrasounds, HSG, SA -- all came back normal. We have trying for 11 months now, Trying with a capital T for 6 months now (meaning OPK's and timed intercourse, 2 cycles of clomid). I keep going back and forth on whether I think we've tried long enough on our own or if we should move to IUI. Both of us would prefer to get pregnant on our own, but I am starting to feel a little panicky. Opinions?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't waste any more time. See an RE.

[Anonymous]

We are seeing an RE. He did the tests. We seem fine on all fronts except no pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever been pregnant?

What's the RE say?

[Anonymous]

IUI couldn't be more simple. I'd move there now.

[Anonymous]

Never been pregnant. RE says we can do natural III and go from there. I just don't know if we should give up on doing it on our own.

[Anonymous]

Doing it on your own isn't working. I'd try other things before too much more time passes.

[Anonymous]

I was in exactly the same situation as you 9 months ago. We had been trying for a year with OPKs, etc without success. Tests showed everything was fine. We decided to give it 3 more months before going ahead with fertility treatments. Have gone through 2 rounds -- 1 of Clomid with IUI and 1 of IVF -- and now we are doing another round of IVF. If I had to do it over again, I would not have waited. At least start talking to your RE about options and start thinking about what you are comfortable doing.

[Anonymous]

IUI is a breeze. Go for it!

[Anonymous]

I'd move ahead with trying other options. It doesn't mean you have to stop trying on your own! But on the stats that you presented, I see no harm in trying something new/different at this point. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Get help now because time isn't on your side. As you get older you will eventually develop an age related issue like poor egg quality/high FSH which will further compound your problem.

[Anonymous]

I'd wait, unless your RE says that would be a bad idea. Sometimes it just takes a while. I'm in a similar boat, and after trying a few cycles of medicated TI, have scrapped moving forward with iui in favor of trying on our own again. IMO, go with what your gut and whatever your RE thinks is ok.

[Anonymous]

Please don't wait. At 35, you have no time to lose. If it hasn't happened in 11 months, you're probably going to need some sort of intervention.

[Anonymous]

Did you do a clomid challenge test? Are they sure you are ovulating?

Our problem is ovulating and our RE thinks if I can ovulate, then we can stick with TI. I didn't respond to clomid though, so we're doing TI with FSH injections.

If you are ovulating and your DH is fine, and you've been trying for 6+ months and you have the money/insurance, IUI doesn't hurt.

But, we don't know your entire medical history like your doctor does. If you trust your doctor, maybe you should stick with their plan. If you aren't sure you trust them, maybe you need to get a second opinion. Have you tried talking to your RE and just telling them you are really anxious and want to know if you should try IUI? They might have a very clear reason for not telling you to try it already.

[Anonymous]

What's your insurance situation. Maybe that will influence your decision. For example, some won't cover IVF unless you've already tried x rounds of IUI. Some won't cover any of it.