i need to hear that other DC wake up in the middle of the night still (>8mo)

[Anonymous]

I am tired of hearing from other people that their 4 mo sleeps through the night, and has since 2 mo. And yes, they mean 10+ hours straight. And no, they are not lying, I'm almost certain. I would venture to say almost all of my friends with children less than a year old somehow have perfect sleepers. They giggle themselves to sleep and wake up 12 hours later.

DD is 9mo. We've had ups and downs in her sleep. She has never giggled herself to sleep (more like fussed, on a -good- night) and doesnt currently STTN. She HAS slept through the night, many times, but then she teethes again and it flies out the window. We are currently down to one night feeding and this is dramatic improvement from just a few weeks ago (one night about a month ago she was up 8 times!). She can go to sleep for bed and naps by herself, but will NOT go back to sleep after a night wake up unless she is nursed. We've tried. And it's turned into 3 hour ordeals that will only end once I go in and nurse her. So, it is just easier to nurse her when she gets up.

I guess I'm not really looking for advice. DD seems to fix the night wake ups on her own when she's ready (she's gotten down to STTN by herself a few times now). I just need to hear I'm not the only one still getting up with DD in the middle of the night now.

[Anonymous]

9 months was the absolute worst for us. He was up for an hour in the middle of the night regularly at that age. Sounds like your baby is a better sleeper than mine was. You are not alone.

[Anonymous]

Oh, you are SO not the only one! My 9 month old DS usually sleeps through the night, but he will occasionally wake up in the middle of the night and, if he doesn't fall back to sleep within 5 minutes or so, usually the only thing that will get him to go back to sleep is to nurse him.

I have a friend with an 11 month old DD who still wakes up to nurse several times on most nights.

I also have a friend with a 16 month old DS who often wakes up at night.

So, you're not alone

[Anonymous]

My son (now 8 3/4) was 12 months -- had slept through maybe 3-4 times before that. My daughter (now 6) was 16 months. They both sleep fine now. You'll live through and it will be a distant (unhappy) memory!

[Anonymous]

Both of my sons were still waking once a night to eat through 9 months, then at 10 months they each started sleeping through the night.

Can't say they eve giggles themselves to sleep though!

[Anonymous]

Nope, not alone. DC#1 is almost 3 now, and has been a pretty good sleeper from about 13 months on, but here's a quote from a blog post I wrote to mark 8 months:

"She's also getting a little bit better about going to sleep - and while we'd thought she was getting better at *staying* asleep too, the last two nights proved us wrong on that account. But there are at least some nights she's sound asleep from 7-3 (and some nights she's waking up every 45-60 min from 10 o'clock on), so hopefully the good nights will slowly overtake the bad, and Mom and Dad might actually get a good night's sleep one of these days."

It took a bit longer, but the good night's sleep did eventually show up. And while we were fully prepared to go through it again, we lucked out and got one of those good sleepers for #2. Which has actually made me feel better about the sleep issues with #1, because the difference in the 2 has made it really clear to me that it was #1s temperament, and not me, that was causing the sleep trouble.

[Anonymous]

I think people lie. Or at least that's what I told myself. #1 started consistently STTN (by which I mean kid goes in crib and requires no maintenance by me until morning) at around 10 months, #2 was closer to a year. Both are great sleepers now, who put themselves to sleep, and sometimes even sleep in for us until 8 on the weekends. So hang in there!!

[Anonymous]

It ebbs and flows. Our daughter was a great sleeper early on - like at three weeks she was giving us 6 hour stretches. But babies and toddlers go through phases. Teething had her up for several nights that first year and a half, and even now, she is almost 2.5 and she still wakes up sometimes for a diaper change or a dream or just because. Not to make you feel like this is never ending, as it does get more consistent and you do get much more sleep that second year, but don't let those moms make you think they are getting great sleep every night - chances are they aren't/won't!

[Anonymous]

Same story here. I am sick of hearing it too! Looks like you've already gotten a page of posters in about 15 minutes so you are clearly not alone. Not that it makes you (or us) any happier! Ours is only 7 mo so I'm really not looking forward to the teething thing. It's only going to get worse!

[Anonymous]

Almost 8 month son still getting up 3 times to eat every night. You are not alone but I have those friends and relatives who have sttners. And they make you feel like they are doing something right and you are doing something wrong. Sigh...

[Anonymous]

Kids are so different, and until you see 2 different kids up close, it's tough to really see that.

DD1 did not sleep 10 straight hours (even one night) until she was over 10 months old. DD2 came home from the hospital sleeping from 11 p.m. to 5 a.m. (Yes, different number of hours, I know). I didn't do anything differently.

[Anonymous]

9 mo old here. Once we go to bed and bring him in with us, he's pretty happy - generally doesn't wake us from 11pm to 4am, when he eats and goes back to sleep for 2 hours. However, while he's in his crib (7:30 to our bedtime), he's up every 45-60 min needing his binky, needing to be rocked - gets worse as it gets later.

[Anonymous]

10 months and we're just now (last 2 weeks) are getting greater than 4 hour stretches.
I'm in heaven with 6 hours straight. It's the little things...

She's just a crappy sleeper. I have 2 other kids who slept through the night well before 6 months so I'm confident it's not something I did or didn't do. We tried CIO on several stretches but it was easier said than done. After hours of crying for days on end she'd improve ever so slightly and then return to old wakening habits within a day or two. We've decided to just tough it out and deal with being up in the middle of the night. Sleep is for the weak (or so I tell myself).

[Anonymous]

Neither of my kids slept through the night until after a year. Once they started walking the sleep got better.

[Anonymous]

yeah, neither of my kids STTN until they were about 11 months. It totally burnt me up to hear about other babies who miraculously worked the sleep thing out on their own at 10 weeks! You aren't the only one, sister!