Family

[Anonymous]

I'm in my late forties. My family doesn't want to meet my boyfriend after weve been dating for a year. My boyfriend feels left out when he doesn't get invited to things like my birthday. It's definitely putting tension on our relationship. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

There is no justifiable reason why a family wouldn't want to at least meet a partner of a year. I'd choose the boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

If it's your birthday, why are you asking for him to be invited? And who throws you a birthday party as a 40 year old?? I'm confused who you mean by "family". Is this your kids (who presumably are under 15) or your parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it's your birthday, why are you asking for him to be invited? And who throws you a birthday party as a 40 year old?? I'm confused who you mean by "family". Is this your kids (who presumably are under 15) or your parents?

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Parents

[Anonymous]

Don’t wait for an invitation from someone else. He’s your partner, so just bring him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's your birthday, why are you asking for him to be invited? And who throws you a birthday party as a 40 year old?? I'm confused who you mean by "family". Is this your kids (who presumably are under 15) or your parents?

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Parents

Why would a 40 year old woman spend her birthday with her parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's your birthday, why are you asking for him to be invited? And who throws you a birthday party as a 40 year old?? I'm confused who you mean by "family". Is this your kids (who presumably are under 15) or your parents?

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Parents

Why would a 40 year old woman spend her birthday with her parents?

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This is weird.

[Anonymous]

She said "things like my birthday," not that they are having a big 40th birthday party for her. She's in her late 40's so it's not her 40th birthday anyway.

There is nothing "weird" about family getting together for someone's birthday. "Hey, Jane, since your birthday is next week, Dad and I would love to take you out for dinner next Saturday to celebrate. Your sister and her husband are coming to." How is that weird? It doesn't mean she only celebrates her birthday with her parents. What IS weird is that she's been dating someone for a year and he isn't invited and they don't even want to meet him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's your birthday, why are you asking for him to be invited? And who throws you a birthday party as a 40 year old?? I'm confused who you mean by "family". Is this your kids (who presumably are under 15) or your parents?

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Parents

Why would a 40 year old woman spend her birthday with her parents?

+1000

This is weird.

+2000
Very weird

[Anonymous]

If I were him, I'd break up with you

[Anonymous]

Is there something big you left out, e.g., he’s an ex-con, or he’s a freeloader who they think is using you?

Otherwise, it sounds like you have an unhealthy level of dependency on your parents for your age / they are trying to control your life like you’re still a child. You’re an adult in your 40s. You are fully capable of planning you own birthday dinner. Invite your family. If they don’t want to show up to meet your bf, that’s on them.

[Anonymous]

There’s more to the story, OP. What is it?

[Anonymous]

How many times have you been married/divorced OP?

[Anonymous]

You are in your late forties, why can’t you be in control of who attends your own birthday party? Honestly I suggest your boyfriend to run, your family seems overbearing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there something big you left out, e.g., he’s an ex-con, or he’s a freeloader who they think is using you?

Otherwise, it sounds like you have an unhealthy level of dependency on your parents for your age / they are trying to control your life like you’re still a child. You’re an adult in your 40s. You are fully capable of planning you own birthday dinner. Invite your family. If they don’t want to show up to meet your bf, that’s on them.

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