Would you follow up again for prom photos, or let it go?
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Anonymous
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DD went to prom with a large group. The photo meetup beforehand was a little chaotic, and while I managed to get a few pictures of DD with her friends, one of the moms said she'd take most of the photos and send them to everyone afterward.
A week or two later, I texted her a friendly reminder saying I'd love to see the pictures when she had a chance. She replied that she'd send them, but never did. DD hasn't received them either, and she doesn't feel comfortable asking her friend to follow up again. (To be fair, DD is much more interested in the selfies they all took anyway.) Would you just let this go at this point? In the grand scheme of things, I do have a few nice photos, but part of me is annoyed that she offered and then didn't follow through. |
Anonymous
| You could ask one more time once school is out but that’s absolutely it. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, wait a week or two, things are nuts right now. Then ask one last time |
Anonymous
| I hate when people are bad about sharing photos. It's fine to ask one more time as people are saying. Will you have an occasion to see the mom in person? It would be great if she could just pull it up and share in real time. So easy in the age of phones. |
Anonymous
| I would wait. This is a very busy time and she might not have gotten around to the photos yet. (But she probably shouldn’t have offered to share if she didn’t think she could do it promptly.) |
Anonymous
| Your daughter should be the one asking the kid of the mom who took pictures. Let them work it out. |
Anonymous
It take five seconds to forward some pictures. No one is that busy. Other mom who offered to take and send photos is rude. |
Anonymous
| Maybe the photos turned out badly? |
Anonymous
| I saved sone group photos with my kid from the Instagram posts of my kids’ friends and parents. Is that an option? I have a son and don’t even know where they took most of the photos. |
Anonymous
| Try reaching out to a different parent from the group who might have taken photos or have gotten them? But really I think insta is a good bet. |
Anonymous
This is what I’m thinking probably happened. The mom had the best of intentions and fumbled, and now she feels like she ruined memories. Because otherwise, why not send the pics immediately? |
Anonymous
Maybe photo mom is the queen bee who doesn’t think OP’s kid should have been part of the group and she doesn’t want OP posting pics on social media acting like she’s inner circle or something. This sounds like a control move. |
Anonymous
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If I were the photographer, I got busy and then your reminder came when I was in the middle of something and then it totally slipped my mind. I'm also a bit of a perfectionist so take a lot at formal events like prom photos but then want to take time to delete the bad ones so it takes more then 5 minutes. I'm working on that.
I totally wouldn't mind another reminder if you were kind and understanding about it. |
Anonymous
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Create a shared photo folder and send it to the parents of all the kids who were there. Ask them to deposit their photos, if they are comfortable, so everyone has some more choices. Include the ones that you took.
We do this on vacations. We create a shared photo folder, email it out to the friends and/or family who were there and ask people to put in the photos they are willing to share. It allows people to get more photos with themselves in them. |
Anonymous
| ask after graduation, school out etc. Too much going on |