Wanting full custody

[Anonymous]

My friend is getting divorced and wants full custody. There was no abuse. The mom did most of the parenting as she used to be a SAHM. She went back to work but did a lot of the parenting.

Dad wants 50%.

Virginia gives parents 50 50, right?

Most divorced families seem to have 50 50.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if dad wants custody and isn’t a complete danger to the kids, he will get it.

[Anonymous]

What's her reason?

[Anonymous]

Most states now presume 50/50. That means that, absent a really good reason not to do it-or the parents agree to another split-it will be 50/50.

[Anonymous]

I have my kids about 90% of the time. It was written that way in the MSA and stamped into the divorce decree.
Dad agreed so no one else said anything about it. Sharing to say, yes, VA assumes 50/50, but if both parties agree - the court accepts it.

[Anonymous]

I have my kids 100%, but only because ex agreed to it. No trial. Without an agreement or major danger to the kids, forget it.

[Anonymous]

50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.

[Anonymous]

She did mos rod the parenting because she didn’t have to take on any financial responsibilities because dad was at work. Being a working parent doesn’t mean you shouldn’t or won’t get custody. Someone had to pay the expenses for the family to live and dads should not be penalized for that.

[Anonymous]

Just because she wants it doesn't mean she will get it or that she should get it. Having two loving parents is very important to a kid. I'm divorced too and have full custody but not because I wanted it or asked for it. my Ex just can't deal with being a father. I resent him a lot for it, but our son still loves him and I love my son and don't want to hurt him so he sees his dad whenver his dad feels like it.

[Anonymous]

It is exceptionally rare.

[Anonymous]

Presumption of 50/50 is the law in 12 states and practiced most often in a number of other states. There are still states where the default is EOW and one night a week as the standard possession schedule for fathers (most often). So depends on where they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50/50 is terrible for the kids. They need a stable home, not back and forth once a week or for a week at a time.
Most men want this to avoid paying child support.

Divorce is bad for kids in that it means they have two homes. The majority of dads want time with their kids, not to avoid child support. It is the reality of splitting up the family, kids now split time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Presumption of 50/50 is the law in 12 states and practiced most often in a number of other states. There are still states where the default is EOW and one night a week as the standard possession schedule for fathers (most often). So depends on where they are.

This is incorrect. It is 7 states, not 12.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50/50 is important for the kids. They need both parents, not one parent trying to freeze the other out.[b]
Most women want full custody to get more[b] child support.

Hi, I fixed your post for you to make it accurate. You're welcome. Please try to avoid being such a misandrist troll in the future.

There we are, then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Presumption of 50/50 is the law in 12 states and practiced most often in a number of other states. There are still states where the default is EOW and one night a week as the standard possession schedule for fathers (most often). So depends on where they are.

This is incorrect. It is 7 states, not 12.

And Virginia is not one of those states.