Pls help me ease my mind

[Anonymous]

I ask you to be gentle on me because I just received difficult to swallow news.
My brother is receiving palliative care. His wife and my sister have been excluding me for years to the point of not informing me when my mother passed. My brother’s daughter excluded me from her wedding. My nephew is kind of the liaison, but vaguely updating.
Memories of our childhood together, with my mother playing with us and celebrating every birthday at home come back.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry your family is such a source of pain. Try to find some solace for yourself, perhaps in nature, in reading, in good food, movies, a friend if possible.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry. Will you have any chance to see him?

[Anonymous]

Palliative care isn't hospice. Please google the difference. I know it can be a hard thing to hear (because it was for me when my dad went on palliative care over 10 years ago) but it does not mean death is imminent. My dad is still here today, still on palliative care.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP.

I strongly urge you to get into therapy. It sounds like you have a lot to unpack and having a third party help you navigate that is so, so helpful.

This is a rough time for you and you are going through a lot. Please look up someone in your area and make some calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry. Will you have any chance to see him?

He passed this morning.

[Anonymous]

Nephew told me they still had hopes. Brother was athletic and in better shape than men at 60. My head hurts and my heart is pumping fast.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP

[Anonymous]

Sounds like it might be a "you" problem, OP.

[Anonymous]

I found out my mother died on Facebook. Siblings can be very hurtful and I assure you it comes from jealousy. When we get older our life is a kaleidoscope of every decision we made and how we treated other people. I don’t have empathy for any of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry. Will you have any chance to see him?

He passed this morning.

Sorry for your loss. In situations like yours, everyone loses. Move on and count your blessings. God sorts us all out in the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like it might be a "you" problem, OP.

🙄Tell us you’re a jerk without telling us you’re a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found out my mother died on Facebook. Siblings can be very hurtful and I assure you it comes from jealousy. When we get older our life is a kaleidoscope of every decision we made and how we treated other people. I don’t have empathy for any of them.

Thank you, and sorry for your loss.

It’s been years of asking myself why were they escalating the behavior. The level of secrecy and exclusion in a family got to the point of cruelty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry. Will you have any chance to see him?

He passed this morning.

I am so sorry for your loss, and for the difficult and painful circumstances in your family.

[Anonymous]

Is it bad that I am curious why you’ve been excluded by not one but three people and not defended by your brother?