Would you let her skip?
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Anonymous
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Dd has had a rough year. She has such bad kids in her 5th grade class and hasn’t made one friend. The other classes have so many of her friends, so it’s not her. She’s really sweet and kind. Classes aren’t allowed to mix at lunch tables and she doesn’t know anyone at recess either, so she spends most of her day alone. She sits at the end of her assigned lunch table so she can talk to all her friends in the other class.
Today she witnessed some bullying and got called to the principals office to tell what she’d seen (she hadn’t spoken up). All the kids knew she told and were very nasty to her about it when she got back. Even the girl being bullied cursed my dd out. Dd spent hours crying tonight and begging not to go to school. I’m pretty upset the principal put my dd in this situation which makes her look like a tattle tale. Dd even told me she told the principal she could neither confirm nor deny the bullying because she hadn’t seen everything. Would you let your dd stay home tomorrow (Friday)? I’ve never done that. It’s my day off work. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Let her stay home. Give her a break. |
Anonymous
| Yes! |
Anonymous
| Agree. Go for it. I'd also ask the principal if she can finish out the year in one of the other classes |
Anonymous
| Yes. I absolutely would. |
Anonymous
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No. She needs to stick up for herself and tell the kids "I TOLD the principal I didn't see anything."
And your claim she doesn't know anyone at recess holds no water - did she start at this school yesterday? It's been over half a year of school - surely she's met people. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely 100% yes give her a break and some extra hugs. Sending hugs to you too, mama. You’re a good mom. People and kids are so mean these days. |
Anonymous
| Yes, 100%. Love on her and let her know you've got her back. She will remember this. |
Anonymous
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I think you should let her skip.
When I opened the thread, I expected to say otherwise, but this story is the exception. I think you should not only let her skip, but treat her a bit. Maybe you could do something like a backyard picnic, run out for ice cream, play a game, relax screen restrictions, or pick something else that would make it a little special. The principal turned a bad situation into a disaster, your DD needs a little happy break. |
Anonymous
+1 My thoughts too |
Anonymous
Nope she’s been here her whole time. There are 6 classes and nearly everyone in her class is new to her except for some of the boys. I’m not sure if the other kids are new students or just were in other classes in previous grades. It’s recess she doesn’t have friends at. For lunch she can at least talk to her friends in the lunch line sometimes. It seems dumb to me you can’t choose where you sit but I’m sure they had issues with open seating. |
Anonymous
| Definitely. Take care of her. Gorgeous weather. |
Anonymous
| Yes! |
Anonymous
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Yes, I would let her skip. But I wouldn't call it skipping. I would call it what it is -- a mental health day. And I'd take care of her and spend quality time with her and give her chances to talk about what is going on at school as she needs to, but not press her to talk about it either.
She needs a break. This is not an indulgence. Take care of her, teach her to take care of herself. |
Anonymous
This. |