Asking parent to cook something and then not eating it

[Anonymous]

How do you deal with the frustration of wasted food?

DD will ask for a particular dish to be made like chicken breast or salmon then it sits in the fridge while she eats ramen or another food.

The other side of this is something like an ask for avocado toast then a complaint that there was too much salt or pepper on top. Not enough olive oil, not a great avocado, whatever the ingredient.

She has no interest in doing it for herself but it’s not pleasant for the person helping to see what they spent time making sit for days then be tossed or to receive those complaints.

[Anonymous]

This is my life. My 14 year old daughter does this all the time. I don’t have a solution other than letting her eat the actual junky fast food she wants. Which isn’t a great answer, but sometimes it helps me not be so irritated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with the frustration of wasted food?

DD will ask for a particular dish to be made like chicken breast or salmon then it sits in the fridge while she eats ramen or another food.

The other side of this is something like an ask for avocado toast then a complaint that there was too much salt or pepper on top. Not enough olive oil, not a great avocado, whatever the ingredient.

She has no interest in doing it for herself but it’s not pleasant for the person helping to see what they spent time making sit for days then be tossed or to receive those complaints.

Then she doesn't eat it. Stop wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

Stop making it. Your DD sounds lazy and you are enabling her laziness and food waste.

[Anonymous]

How old is she? Why is she permitted to do this bait and switch? Why does she think you have nothing better to do with your life than make her food she will not eat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with the frustration of wasted food?

DD will ask for a particular dish to be made like chicken breast or salmon then it sits in the fridge while she eats ramen or another food.

The other side of this is something like an ask for avocado toast then a complaint that there was too much salt or pepper on top. Not enough olive oil, not a great avocado, whatever the ingredient.

She has no interest in doing it for herself but it’s not pleasant for the person helping to see what they spent time making sit for days then be tossed or to receive those complaints.

Don’t buy Ramen. I’ve never tried it because I don’t trust anything that cheap. There’s no need for that. Don’t buy any of that stuff that’s easy to open up and start eating. She’ll eat it or be hungry.

[Anonymous]

Don't make her the food, or don't buy the ramen, or both. Let her make her own avocado toast or salmon or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Stop making these things for her. She is old enough to make them herself. And ramen is generally REALLY high in sodium - unless it's Lotus Foods rice ramen I wouldn't buy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with the frustration of wasted food?

DD will ask for a particular dish to be made like chicken breast or salmon then it sits in the fridge while she eats ramen or another food.

The other side of this is something like an ask for avocado toast then a complaint that there was too much salt or pepper on top. Not enough olive oil, not a great avocado, whatever the ingredient.

She has no interest in doing it for herself but it’s not pleasant for the person helping to see what they spent time making sit for days then be tossed or to receive those complaints.

The second or third time this happens I'm not taking those requests anymore. And I'm telling them why.

[Anonymous]

I’ve stopped cooking like this. My teens are now so incredibly picky and capable of making their own food. I repeatedly tell them that I am not a short off cook.

I make what I want for dinner and they can eat it or make what they want. I am not making anyone else breakfast or lunch.

[Anonymous]

*short order

[Anonymous]

She can make her own avocado toast.

Make one dinner for the family. Tell her she can't make anything else. Then everyone sits down together to eat the salmon.

[Anonymous]

I also have this problem but one of the kids is younger and the other has special needs. Yes to the frustration of waste and my time and energy. Family cooking has made me hate food.

[Anonymous]

On the food criticism, I think the answer is — ok, one reason I love cooking is that you can adjust recipes to your liking. Next time, help me make it so you can make it exactly like you want.

On the not eating, i think it depends. Is the reason they aren’t eating it because they don’t llle ot in leftover from? Or they just don’t look in the fridge to see what’s there?

[Anonymous]

Why isn't she making the easy things herself? If my 12 year old wants avocado toast, she is perfectly capable of making that herself. She makes herself eggs for breakfast in the way that she likes, she makes grilled cheese sandwiches for lunch. She's even made tomato soup for dinner before. She's not cooking elaborate meals, but simple things she definitely can and will make by herself.