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Anonymous
| My family is in a bit of desperate times. I have been SAH and looking for a job for the last 5 months and DH might be laid off before the end of the year. I'm trying to stay positive and persistent, but it seems kind of hopeless out there. A few more months of this and we might need to short sale and move in with inlaws. I don't think that the reality of that has fully hit me yet. I guess I'm just looking for a glimmer of hope. We really never imagined that we would ever be in this situation. I feel like I've failed my children.... |
Anonymous
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Chin up! You have failed no one.
I am a SAHM that went back to work a year ago, part time. 25hrs per week. It took me about 9 months of solid searching before I found a job. I found mine on craigslist, which is a great source for both full and part time jobs. I would also look in to taking out a line of credit before your DH loses his job. It will act as your emergency life-line so that you don't have to short sale or move in with your inlaws. Another suggestion - How about renting out your house (but only if you can rent it for more than your mortgage), then move into a tiny rental. That way you keep your house, but your cash flow eases and you won't feel so desperate. Just a few ideas. |
Anonymous
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Sorry for what you are going through OP. FWIW, my sister was out of work for 14 months and then found something. It was tough, but she managed by cutting WAY back on groceries and personal expenses. She also ended up selling her car and using an old one of our mom's , but I realize this was a big blessing and not possible for everyone.
Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Personally, if my situation was that dire, I would take any job including temp work or retail and continue looking the meantime. |
Anonymous
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OP here. thank you for the supportive comments. It does help. We might try to rent it out.
To PP, I have actually looked into all those options but my kids are still too young for school and I would need full time day care which is more expensive than those jobs pay. Also, most jobs outside my field (I have an advanced degree) aren't interested. It's really tough out there. |
Anonymous
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OP, no real advice but did want to say that last night, 60 Minutes did a segment on "The 99ers" - the folks who are getting ready to run out of the 99 week extension on unemployment benefits, and you should just know (as I sure you do) that many people are in this situation. It does no good to say you've failed your children. At least you have a back up plan in your in-laws.
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Anonymous
| OP what is your field of work and how long have you been out of the work force? Do you have any contacts with your prior employers? Maybe they could give you some consulting work. DH lost his job and went back to his prior company, that gladly took him back. He lost the salary increase he had negotiated at the newer company and also the benefits are not as good, but he's employed and that's the important thing right now. He was hired back before his piddly two-week severance from the newer company ran out. We were truly fortunate. Wishing you lots of luck and good fortune! |
Anonymous
| We were in a similar situation and moved in with my parents BEFORE the actual lay off happened. I am a worry wart and wanted out of the mortgage asap and the house sold quicker thant I thought. Fortunately, husband was not laid off and we are still living with my parents which isn't so bad. We plan on staying with them until we have a solid financial cushion. As for how long it takes to find a job - I've known some who who unemployed for only a month and just one friend who has been unnemployed for almost a year. I suggest not to be picky. |
Anonymous
| I've had to reinvent myself a few times. I had a dream lobbying job. The new guy came in and axed me one day w/o warning. I then became a lifeguard again at 40 -- hadn't done that since college. I then became a career director. And then...the message is you can do it OP. Get a linkedin account if you don't have one. Join all of the groups on it that you possibly can. Connect with alums from your college, job groups, etc. Get out there...get a nice outfit or two in order...good luck! It's hard...it's depressing...but you'll do fine...when you know your family is counting on you. |
Anonymous
What about evenings or weekends? You could at least work PT somewhere that has health benefits. Off hand I know places like Costco, Wegman's, Lowes, and Starbucks offer PT employees health benefits. |
Anonymous
| Yes, and recently found one 3 months before we were going to need to put the house on the market after 1 1/2 years of looking. Chin up - market is getting better, I think. |
Anonymous
I would look for a holiday retail job in the evenings and on weekends if your DH can watch them then. Around now is when the hiring typically happens. Good luck! |
Anonymous
i have been out of work for 8 years and I was just wondering how do even start to look for a job. My resume crashed with my old computer so i don't even have that to go by. I am just not sure where to start. thank you for your help   p
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Anonymous
| I would suggest that you meet with a temp agency. Temping can lead to full time employment. |
Anonymous
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OP, I sympathize because I am in a similar situation (DH about to get axed and I am SAHM).
I have had no luck in 4 months of looking, as in, not even one call back for a professional position. I suggest, as another PP did, evening and weekend work a.s.a.p. because of the young child-daycare situation. Nursery and landscape places are hiring, plus all the retail you've already thought of. Veterinarian offices and doctors offices have difficult time filling the odd shifts -- that's the direction I'm going, a vet hospital. |