Why do women put up with losers after 40?
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Anonymous
| At breakfast there was a loud, obnoxious man who if I had to guess was Eastern European. He was attempting to flirt with a college aged girl sitting at another table asking her all sorts of personal questions. Finally his American wife appears with their food (food is picked up from the counter) and she kept running up and back to their table bringing butter, syrup, coffee ,milk etc and probably paid for it herself too with him never once getting up or offering to help her. She then starts complaining that she’s done with him unless they have a baby soon because she’s getting too old. He makes a joke about maybe they should adopt a Chinese baby but then remembers a violent felony from 8 years ago so they can’t adopt. He then proceeded to ask her if she’ll buy him beer when breakfast is over. They quickly had breakfast and left with her driving with him away in a Mercedes. Through this conversation it was revealed she is some kind of health professional. Why put up with such a loser? The only good reason I could think of is she’s over 40. Why are ladies putting up with this crap? Stay single and have a baby on your own if you want. They are bringing nothing to the table but trouble. |
Anonymous
| You got it all during 30 minutes of breakfast? |
Anonymous
| Get a life... |
Anonymous
Maybe people shouldn’t put theirs out so publicly |
Anonymous
Let me ask you this: Did you manage to even get a bite in at breakfast? Or were you too busy leaning your ear over in your chair to the point of almost falling over? |
Anonymous
| Oh come on, if this was going on at a table next to me my DH and I both would have pulled out those Victorian ear trumpet things to get a better listen on. |
Anonymous
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Why didn't you ask her? I have a few reasons for you. I wouldn't know hers.
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Anonymous
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I've observed similar couples, and I think it's the fear of loneliness or of change. |
Anonymous
This. Someone posted the other day about their loser boyfriend but they were about to turn 33 or something and they were afraid of starting over. Some people seem incapable of seeing the long game and realizing that they'd be way worse off down the road with this guy and kids. It all stems from insecurity, as honestly most things seem to. |
Anonymous
| Yikes! Imagine how defective she must be for that guy to be a suitable partner. |
Anonymous
I am Eastern European. Our men are not marriage material for American women. Such couples are very rare. I am surprised you have met one. Usually its the other way around. I seriously doubt that an American woman with a career in medicine will be tolerating this kind of behavior. |
Anonymous
She may not have any other choice possibly due to a major defect in her. Or she had an inflated sense of self worth and in her younger years thought she deserved better than the guys she met. Now that she’s old and wants to have a baby, she has no choice but to settle. |
Anonymous
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She answered the question already: baby panic.
This couple if they do continue will be divorced and she will be a single mom since she has the income. However, also realize that of people who work in health care an incredibly high proportion have trauma, are adult children of alcoholics, or grew up in an adverse situation that can affect their judgment and behavior in adult relationships. |
Anonymous
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Just another made up post.
This one is not even well-written or even funny imo. |
Anonymous
| may be she has some weaknesses or insecurities too or all the good men in her age group are either taken and she is dealing with the leftovers. |