Why do women take it so personal when they are single?

[Anonymous]

Why do women take it so personal when they are single? I don't think there is anything wrong with any woman at any age if she has been looking and hasn't found anyone.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of people feel differently than you.

Unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

I think the pendulum is swinging over to people wondering what is wrong with a woman if she chooses to get married to a heterosexual man.

I mean, it’s fine, no judgement. I don’t think there is anything wrong with any individual who chooses to live this lifestyle. It just seems kind of sad overall.

[Anonymous]

Pressure form society maybe? I don't know I am a man..

[Anonymous]

Take what personally? When people refer to the fact that they are single? I don’t really know what you are referring to.

I kndgine it would get annoying if people were constantly asking them about their status.

[Anonymous]

I don't know anyone who minds being single. Where do you live?

[Anonymous]

Never saw this OP. And once lived in several large U.S. cities and various states.

[Anonymous]

The only people I know who care if a woman is single or not are bitter single men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the pendulum is swinging over to people wondering what is wrong with a woman if she chooses to get married to a heterosexual man.

I mean, it’s fine, no judgement. I don’t think there is anything wrong with any individual who chooses to live this lifestyle. It just seems kind of sad overall.

I'm married to a man and honestly, I feel this. Sometimes I feel like a sucker.

It was easier to have kids with a husband, I'll say that. But I have three different friends who went the single-mom-by-choice route. Higher up front costs but it honestly seems easier in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Women are vocal, and they outwardly express their concerns/struggles. You are interpreting this rather healthy characteristic as "taking things personal". Would you rather they commit mass violence like incels do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the pendulum is swinging over to people wondering what is wrong with a woman if she chooses to get married to a heterosexual man.

I mean, it’s fine, no judgement. I don’t think there is anything wrong with any individual who chooses to live this lifestyle. It just seems kind of sad overall.

A friend of mine got her PhD then immediately became a full-time SAHM - she and her husband now have six kids. It's not my cup of tea but it seems to work for her. And there's something to be said for contributing six well-educated people to our society.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing that the person you are thinking about and generalizing from feels sad that she is single and doesn't want to be single.

However, that said, I think it may be is YOU who is the problem.

Also, how else can one take things? impersonally?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the pendulum is swinging over to people wondering what is wrong with a woman if she chooses to get married to a heterosexual man.

I mean, it’s fine, no judgement. I don’t think there is anything wrong with any individual who chooses to live this lifestyle. It just seems kind of sad overall.

A friend of mine got her PhD then immediately became a full-time SAHM - she and her husband now have six kids. It's not my cup of tea but it seems to work for her. And there's something to be said for contributing six well-educated people to our society.

Similar. My friend met her husband at a top MBA program then had 6 kids. She’s close with her kids but she also had 1-2 nannies over the years to manage all 6 plus nonprofit work. They’ve done very well. She’s the only person with that many kids who I envy a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the pendulum is swinging over to people wondering what is wrong with a woman if she chooses to get married to a heterosexual man.

I mean, it’s fine, no judgement. I don’t think there is anything wrong with any individual who chooses to live this lifestyle. It just seems kind of sad overall.

It isn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the pendulum is swinging over to people wondering what is wrong with a woman if she chooses to get married to a heterosexual man.

I mean, it’s fine, no judgement. I don’t think there is anything wrong with any individual who chooses to live this lifestyle. It just seems kind of sad overall.

I don’t think so.
While it’s true there are quite a few men out there who are unmarriageable due to underemployment, unemployment, or lack of relationship and family-building skills (a big umbrella), there are also a lot of women who simply have unreasonable expectations. Obviously it goes both ways and a lot of men have unreasonable expectations as well.

But it is not crazy for a woman to get married to a man. At no other time in history do women have more leverage and financial power than they do now.