should I redshirt DD

[Anonymous]

DD just passed 6. she is 3'8'' and 40 lbs. very petite. so she looks like two years smaller than her 1st grade peers. people always guess she is 4-5.
But academicwise she is outsmart most of her peers, and so far i am not seeing any social problem from her - most of time she is the leader of her group. yes, the kids listen to her and follow her.

I am concerned that she will get bullied and be less confident if she is much smaller than her peers when growing. she has petite genes. so should I hold her back?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I meant she just passed 7, but 6.

[Anonymous]

No. She will always be small - a year won't matter.

[Anonymous]

What grade is she going to?
My 10 year old DD is a size of an 8 year old and doing well academically and socially. She's one of the shortest in her class but has embraced it.

[Anonymous]

What grade is she finishing now? What options do you believe you have?

From what I can tell,there is no advantage in having her repeat a grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What grade is she going to?
My 10 year old DD is a size of an 8 year old and doing well academically and socially. She's one of the shortest in her class but has embraced it.

she will finish 1st grade soon. If i hold her back, I am thinking to repeat 1st again since we will be relocating to another state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I meant she just passed 7, but 6.

She turned 7 recently and is in first grade.

You want to hold her back so she will be 7-8 repeating first next year, and 8-9 in second?

Is that correct?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What grade is she going to?
My 10 year old DD is a size of an 8 year old and doing well academically and socially. She's one of the shortest in her class but has embraced it.

she will finish 1st grade soon. If i hold her back, I am thinking to repeat 1st again since we will be relocating to another state.

What?! Why would she need to be held back AND repeat first grade? She doesn't need to do either of those things, moving or not.

[Anonymous]

You’ve spoken an out her physical size but haven’t mentioned her birthdate relative to your school cut off. If she’s doing well socially and academically why would you consider holding her back simply for being petite?

She could also always be the smallest, whether she’s 8 or 18. What is gained for her if you hold her back?

[Anonymous]

No you don't hold her back for size alone.
You think big children should skip a grade?

Doesnt make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What grade is she going to?
My 10 year old DD is a size of an 8 year old and doing well academically and socially. She's one of the shortest in her class but has embraced it.

she will finish 1st grade soon. If i hold her back, I am thinking to repeat 1st again since we will be relocating to another state.

What?! Why would she need to be held back AND repeat first grade? She doesn't need to do either of those things, moving or not.

“Being held back” and “repeating 1st grade” are the same thing. Both mean the child would do 1st grade again next year instead of moving on to 2nd.

[Anonymous]

When is her birthday?

[Anonymous]

No, this isn’t really a valid reason for repeating a grade. If she has “petite genes” as you say, then her peers will always be bigger than her.

[Anonymous]

Have you considered your DD’s self esteem when you hold her back one year? “Sorry Larla, you can’t be in class with your friends because you are petite.” This is crazy talk.

[Anonymous]

No, you do not make her repeat 1st grade due to her physical size! She will likely be small her whole life and will have to deal with that no matter what. Do not create a new problem for her (boredom in school because she learned already, plus knocking her confidence by placing her with younger kids), based on a hypothetical problem you’ve created in your mind.