Speed dating or mixers

[Anonymous]

I am 45F and don’t want to try OLD someone suggested attending a singles event in person.Any recommendations? Are there some that are better than others? All I’m finding are zoom events which I think defeats the purpose. Thanks

[Anonymous]

I have read (Reddit) that they aren't great, and the organizers have trouble getting men to attend.

If you are a drinker, join the FB Drink NOVA group. They have some mixers in addition to other events. I know a couple people who have found relationships via that group.

[Anonymous]

As awful as apps are, could they possibly be worse than having to show up at a singles mixer and try to attract a man you know nothing about?!?! Don't you want to know whether the person you're interested in is married/separated? Has kids or not? Is a MAGA weirdo? For all of their faults, the apps let you screen for more than just looks and a nice outfit/grooming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have read (Reddit) that they aren't great, and the organizers have trouble getting men to attend.

If you are a drinker, join the FB Drink NOVA group. They have some mixers in addition to other events. I know a couple people who have found relationships via that group.

One of my friends joined a fb group and it’s a mess. All the women fighting over the same man

[Anonymous]

It's been awhile, but I did a Zoom speed dating event sometime in the first six weeks of the pandemic.

Everyone I spoke with was normal and pleasant, but, unlike with the apps, you can't screen for distance. I lived in NW DC and once I matched with someone in Sterling or Gaithersburg, I'd just have a pleasant conversation and run out the clock.

[Anonymous]

OP here thanks for the feedback. Somehow I think OLD attracts scammers but I get the point of being able to screen out people that are not a match. My last relationship we met due to similar work and before that college, online apps seems so foreign but may try it.

[Anonymous]

There are some FWB mixers or speed dating with those intense and they work well for me. Not good for long term dating.

[Anonymous]

Get over it. Scammers are everywhere, including on dating apps. Train yourself to recognize the losers and block them. You need to buy the Burn The Haystack book and take the lessons to heart.

[Anonymous]

It's been years, but the speed dating event I attended was comical. Not a man I would be willing to date in the whole bunch.

[Anonymous]

I'd do OLD and tell everyone you know you're looking instead of speed dating. The men tend to be a little socially inept.

[Anonymous]

Airport parties are kind of a mix of both, but probably close to a mixer. Not everyone likes them but others find them really fun. I'm sort of in the middle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Airport parties are kind of a mix of both, but probably close to a mixer. Not everyone likes them but others find them really fun. I'm sort of in the middle.

I have done mixers but they are only good in sleeping around and not for LTR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Airport parties are kind of a mix of both, but probably close to a mixer. Not everyone likes them but others find them really fun. I'm sort of in the middle.

I have done mixers but they are only good in sleeping around and not for LTR.

Airport parties are more about silly fun, going around in a group asking for directions to gate "so and so", then everyone runs away, etc. But LTRs have resulted. It really just depends.