Would this bother you?
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Anonymous
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I connected with someone on a dating app. We had a fantastic phone convo and agreed to go on a date in 2 weeks. They told me they were out of town visiting a friend until then.
Well, I just went out for drinks alone and they were there! They didn’t notice me. |
Anonymous
| Oof, yeah. I'd assume they're a schmoozer/womanizer at best, flat out manipulative liar at worst. Do not pass go. |
Anonymous
| Yes |
Anonymous
| Tell him you saw his twin bro at the bar! |
Anonymous
It doesn't matter if it bothers you. We have to remember, our judgements about people really don't matter in the long run. But, if you feel that his behavior is disqualifying for having a relationship with you, so be it. |
Anonymous
| Was he with a guy or a gal? |
Anonymous
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You just met them o line and they didn’t want to or couldn’t see you for two weeks so gave you some lame excuse.
Oh well. |
Anonymous
| It would bother me in an irrational way - - but overall I would just be glad that I dodged a huge, lying bullet! |
Anonymous
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Red Flag 🚩 That person is a liar. Move on |
Anonymous
| You sure it was them? |
Anonymous
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A total stranger doesn't give you all the details? How odd and offensive. I am sure you gave him an hour-by-hour forecast of your whereabouts for the following two weeks.
Did you guys connect online on a Tuesday and you saw him on Wednesday or Thursday? Maybe he was leaving Friday or Saturday morning. There's all sorts of things. You have no idea. |
Anonymous
+1 You could tell from a picture? Do you live in a small town? |
Anonymous
| I would not go on the date. He's probably married and his wife is out of town in two weeks. |
Anonymous
| It would not bother me at all |
Anonymous
Yes, was he on a date? What was observable to you? Are you absolutely sure it was him? While I don't think anyone owes many specifics that early on, I would be irked by the lie and would cancel and disconnect. Bullet dodged. |