uncertainty of life

[Anonymous]

How do you deal with it?

I have a daughter who’s put off university for a few years because she says not all degrees lead to jobs and you don’t know what the future holds.

She googles every degree and find people complaining that they cant find work.

But that doesnt mean you shouldn’t try. How can I help her do you think?

[Anonymous]

So, she has to make money and support herself. Please tell me you are NOT providing financial support. People live -only- where they can afford to live, and pay for it themselves.

A college education is often provided, sort of an exception. An expense that parents often pay for and the student takes advantage of the opportunity.

[Anonymous]

I guess only some people understand that college is a fantastic developmental opportunity regardless of whether it helps you get a job.

My family has been college educated for generations. At least back to some great-grandparents. Both my grandmothers were college-educated and became SAHMs. College is kind of a given.

I have one son loving college at a popular school. And a younger one in high school giving me lip about how pointless it is. But I'm paying for it and I've explained that it's easiest to do when young. It's an accomplishment and a developmental opportunity, even if it doesn't pay off a huge cash return.

[Anonymous]

That is an excuse. Don't enable her or this behavior.

[Anonymous]

This is all just my personal opinion - - definitely not gospel but I believe the longer that you put off further education (college,) then the tougher it is to begin.
People can get very complacent in life > especially the older they get.

I would strongly encourage your daughter to attend higher education.
Just having a college degree under her belt will set her up for future success.

Because in life, it is very idealistic to think that we can put off doing things until the “right” or perfect time.
But that time is truly never either or.

I think she should go after what she wants while she is still young…..her peers are already a few yrs. ahead of her!

Wishing your daughter only the best!

[Anonymous]

So what job has she been doing in the meantime?

[Anonymous]

You tell her to get any job, work, pay rent and her own expenses. Time to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what job has she been doing in the meantime?

I'm thinking nothing.

[Anonymous]

She sounds dumb as rocks. Make her go to college and get a degree that’s employable.

[Anonymous]

College is a floor not a ceiling and the degree she gets today will not be the thing that dictates what career she has when she's 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess only some people understand that college is a fantastic developmental opportunity regardless of whether it helps you get a job.

My family has been college educated for generations. At least back to some great-grandparents. Both my grandmothers were college-educated and became SAHMs. College is kind of a given.

I have one son loving college at a popular school. And a younger one in high school giving me lip about how pointless it is. But I'm paying for it and I've explained that it's easiest to do when young. It's an accomplishment and a developmental opportunity, even if it doesn't pay off a huge cash return.

Yup. I agree.

I am also one of those people who think that people who go to college and get a comprehensive education are the ones who can work with AI. How else will they be capable of looking at the big picture and find solutions

[Anonymous]

College brings increased opportunities. My friend was accepted at 2 colleges but didn't attend because she thought the same way as your daughter. She's 57 with a teenager, works at a big-box store and complains constantly about how wages are not high enough. She has no health insurance or savings. Tell your daughter to set herself up for life in every way she can, because it probably won't go the way she expects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How do you deal with it?

I have a daughter who’s put off university for a few years because she says not all degrees lead to jobs and you don’t know what the future holds.

She googles every degree and find people complaining that they cant find work.

But that doesnt mean you shouldn’t try. How can I help her do you think?

Why do you need to help her? She is a grown-ass adult. Let her work at Talbots or whatever for six months and see how she likes retail.

[Anonymous]

Encourage your daughter to at least enroll in community college. She doesn't have to decide what she wants to major in right away. She can take a bunch of different subjects to see what interests her. She also shouldn't focus on what she has been focusing on-- whether she will be employable after getting a college degree. She needs to just put one foot in front of the other and see what happens. She can't predict the future. Part of going to college is learning to think critically about things. I also agree that college is developmental experience and an important part of growing and maturing. At least have her get an associates degree. She could also decide to learn a trade. Community college can help her figure out what she wants to do.

[Anonymous]

Can she work and go to community college while deciding what she wants to study?