Encouraging daughter to give the marijuana a rest?

[Anonymous]

We tried to take a more realistic approach to marijuana as parents. DH and I both gave it a whirl when we were teens and figured probably DD would too. We didn’t want to encourage it, but merely be prepared. However, she REALLY likes it and doesn’t like to go more than two weeks without a taste. If we just demand that she quit cold turkey I fear this will just make it worse. But this is getting intense. Does anyone, particularly those people who seem to have perfected gentle parenting, have any tips or tricks?

[Anonymous]

You're an idiot for letting your daughter use marijuana

I hope you're a troll

[Anonymous]

Wow you totally bought into the propaganda. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We tried to take a more realistic approach to marijuana as parents. DH and I both gave it a whirl when we were teens and figured probably DD would too. We didn’t want to encourage it, but merely be prepared. However, she REALLY likes it and doesn’t like to go more than two weeks without a taste. If we just demand that she quit cold turkey I fear this will just make it worse. But this is getting intense. Does anyone, particularly those people who seem to have perfected gentle parenting, have any tips or tricks?

You might be a troll. But, if you're not- talk to her about how it's hard to go 2 weeks without using it. Ask her to think about what that means for her body and her mind- that she is craving this feeling that she knows isn't good for her developing brain. Ask her to write down how she spends her time when she's high vs when she's not. Ask her if getting high makes her connect with other people, or makes her isolate herself (alcohol is terrible for you but teens usually drink in groups and hang out- which at least has some social benefits, not that it cancels out all of the awful health effects and the risks of drunk driving and unwanted sexual encounters and the rest of it). Help her come to the decision herself that she shouldn't be using it so much.
But also, smoking pot twice a month as a high schooler isn't the end of the world.

[Anonymous]

The weed you smoked is not the same stuff kids use today. The new stuff is way stronger. Look it up.

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong with her having weed? What is it doing to her? People on here say it’s harmless. I personally believe it is a scourge and will cause the downfall of our society. I do want to know why you are unhappy with her using it after you condoned its use.

[Anonymous]

Tell her she smells, and only low life’s use the Devil’s lettuce.

[Anonymous]

She needs substance abuse counseling. This is terrible for her developing brain. Cut off her phone, monitor her on computer, and no money. Help her before it’s too late. Warning: she will be angry, addicted always are.

[Anonymous]

I hate the stuff with a passion - but every two weeks? How old is she?

I don't see how her smoking every couple of weeks is any different than kids drinking on Friday nights in high school.

This is not to say I condone underage substance use. I don't. But it's going to happen. It's best to talk through responsible use, safety, how it impacts school, work, relationships, money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate the stuff with a passion - but every two weeks? How old is she?

I don't see how her smoking every couple of weeks is any different than kids drinking on Friday nights in high school.

This is not to say I condone underage substance use. I don't. But it's going to happen. It's best to talk through responsible use, safety, how it impacts school, work, relationships, money.

Omg people. Teens drinking is not ok either. Alcohol and weed are not good for teens with developing brains.
It is possible and better for them to get through those years without it.

I’ve known a lot of low lifes who complain about how hard life is and have zero accountability and are constantly making excuses for not being successful or self sufficient. Marijuana use is a common denominator.
I may try it when I don’t need to be productive any more, which looks to be about age 70.

Sure, there might be some people who use sometimes without adverse affects but that is not the norm.

[Anonymous]

It was a gateway drug to alcohol for my brother. He died of alcoholism at age 50.

[Anonymous]

13:06 poster again

Therapists told my parents week was harmless.

[Anonymous]

We have a zero tolerance policy for our children, and since they're like us, they're not remotely interested. We have a 21 year old and a 16 year old.

Your daughter is addicted if she can't go without it, even if she's not a heavy consumer. Talk to her and find a dopamine-rich activity she can try to replace weed with. What's important is to keep your relationship of trust - she needs to tell you when she really wants it, and then you can jump in and propose a replacement. Keep educating her on the memory loss, and other downsides of weed.

[Anonymous]

all these genx boomers complaining about weed and they are the reason its legal as they light it up themselves

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the stuff with a passion - but every two weeks? How old is she?

I don't see how her smoking every couple of weeks is any different than kids drinking on Friday nights in high school.

This is not to say I condone underage substance use. I don't. But it's going to happen. It's best to talk through responsible use, safety, how it impacts school, work, relationships, money.

Omg people. Teens drinking is not ok either. Alcohol and weed are not good for teens with developing brains.
It is possible and better for them to get through those years without it.

I’ve known a lot of low lifes who complain about how hard life is and have zero accountability and are constantly making excuses for not being successful or self sufficient. Marijuana use is a common denominator.
I may try it when I don’t need to be productive any more, which looks to be about age 70.

Sure, there might be some people who use sometimes without adverse affects but that is not the norm.

I never said it was OK. I said it is very common and parents can't stop it. They can only help their kids make wiser decisions.