Opening up to a therapist / finding right fit

[Anonymous]

I need to talk to a therapist about DC / general middle aged stuff. Lots of complex feelings (guess that's not uncommon) but just wondering how quickly people dump everything out, start to build trust. Had tried therapy before when things were less stressful and liked the therapist enough but didn't feel a need to continue. On one hand I want to dive right in, but also want to click with the therapist.

[Anonymous]

I feel like i know from intake if they won't work. I did have a younger therapist when i was in my 20s that i saw for a while but wasn't a good fit because she couldn't offer a lot of the life experience help i felt i needed at the time.

[Anonymous]

For me, it happened in layers. There was some very practical work in the beginning on how to emotionally regulate myself, how to carve out a little bit of space in my brain for me, how to communicate better with DH about giving me a break, etc. Later, we got into more depth about feelings of isolation, guilt, grief, hypervigilance, over-control. Some of that goes farther back than my own kid. But we had established a strong rapport by the time we got to those things. A good therapist should be ready to go with whatever pace you need. And it might be deep in some areas and more practical in others as you start to put out fires.

[Anonymous]

I liked mine and jumped right in. Why wait?

Get your kid in therapy. That will take longer to find the right fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I liked mine and jumped right in. Why wait?

Get your kid in therapy. That will take longer to find the right fit.

why automatically assume DC kid needs therapy?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

It depends on the therapist and on me. Ams I wouldn’t assume that dumping early is good. I had someone last year who I at first thought was good bc she went so deep so early, but I came to feel like I was being flayed and then sent into the world. She also was very disorganized in a way that affected our ability to meet regularly and my ability to trust her. I stopped after 2 months feeling pretty shaken, and that’s not a usual place for me.

What I would spend lots of time on is reading up on them and talking to them. Try out the free 20 min and if you’re skeptical, don’t dive in. You deserve to feel good and excited about the match.