What kind of men/women should I be looking for?

[Anonymous]

I am 31F with two elementary aged kids. I am 95 percent sure I'm done having kids. I am bi and open to dating men or women. Lower middle class salary, and have a co parent who has the kids about 40 percent of the time so I can date.

I've been mostly single the past 6 years, dated 1 woman who is my age, a man 12 years older, and a man who was 8 years older, plus briefly dated a few other men my age. None were that serious. I like dating men who have kids, but most men my age who are my type (leftist, etc) don't have any kids, so that's why I've dated older guys.

I want someone who is educated (I have a bachelor's degree and would prefer that or more) and maybe makes a little more than me for added security. Is that out of my league? I have a nice body, decent but simple style, pretty and nice personality. Attracted to all races, and ok with someone who isn't tall or is a little overweight.

I get a lot of interest from both men and women on apps, but I've been hesitant to go on dates lately. I'm okay with just focusing on my kids and working, but it would be nice to feel more stable and loved after being single for so long.

[Anonymous]

If you want financial stability and an educated man who has kids you need to be open to dating men that are 45 years old and older. The older they are the more they are going to be understanding and empathetic about your situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want financial stability and an educated man who has kids you need to be open to dating men that are 45 years old and older. The older they are the more they are going to be understanding and empathetic about your situation.

14+ years my senior is a little much but I am open to it. The last man I dated was 43 and he was always tired, not up to do simple outdoor stuff that I like (I have a small boat and other gear I would like to use with someone)

[Anonymous]

You should go out on more dates, you are young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should go out on more dates, you are young.

Usually get the opposite advice on here! I'll try to make it a priority more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I get a lot of interest from both men and women on apps, but I've been hesitant to go on dates lately.

Well there's your problem. If you're not going on dates, don't expect much to happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I get a lot of interest from both men and women on apps, but I've been hesitant to go on dates lately.

Well there's your problem. If you're not going on dates, don't expect much to happen.

Well it's online interest, not in person interest. I've been on OLD since 2020 and it's been getting worse. If I had in person interest I would be a lot more willing to go out. I get out often- my job involves meeting new people all the time, and I go out with friends to bars or on outdoor adventures like boating. Still nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I get a lot of interest from both men and women on apps, but I've been hesitant to go on dates lately.

Well there's your problem. If you're not going on dates, don't expect much to happen.

Well it's online interest, not in person interest. I've been on OLD since 2020 and it's been getting worse. If I had in person interest I would be a lot more willing to go out. I get out often- my job involves meeting new people all the time, and I go out with friends to bars or on outdoor adventures like boating. Still nothing.

I also protest ICE often so I have a large community of friends there. But the guys who have asked me out are not my type. Most of the women are married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I get a lot of interest from both men and women on apps, but I've been hesitant to go on dates lately.

Well there's your problem. If you're not going on dates, don't expect much to happen.

Well it's online interest, not in person interest. I've been on OLD since 2020 and it's been getting worse. If I had in person interest I would be a lot more willing to go out. I get out often- my job involves meeting new people all the time, and I go out with friends to bars or on outdoor adventures like boating. Still nothing.

I also protest ICE often so I have a large community of friends there. But the guys who have asked me out are not my type. Most of the women are married.

It sounds like you have a lot of chaos in your life OP. Please do not expose your kids to that. You do agree that their well being is your first priority, right?

[Anonymous]

Keep living and doing things you enjoy. That’s when it happens, naturally. Just like when women try so many different methods to have a child, then one day when they least expect…boom…they are expecting. Your person could possibly already be in your orbit. Live and let live, that person will appear. I wouldn’t force it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I get a lot of interest from both men and women on apps, but I've been hesitant to go on dates lately.

Well there's your problem. If you're not going on dates, don't expect much to happen.

Well it's online interest, not in person interest. I've been on OLD since 2020 and it's been getting worse. If I had in person interest I would be a lot more willing to go out. I get out often- my job involves meeting new people all the time, and I go out with friends to bars or on outdoor adventures like boating. Still nothing.

Wait, you started OLD when you were divorced at 25 with two young kids?