Should I step in

[Anonymous]

One player in DD’s club always cut in front of DD when they are lining up for some drill. That girl is not in the same team with DD, but all girls in the club do skill session together. DD said that girl also cut in other girls but if others said no she would not continue. However when DD refuses, that girl just pretend not to hear. That girl’s mom is also rude, I know this is because when parents waiting on the side she never let other kid sit on the seat that she put her purse on. DD said too many girls on the session, so the coach won’t be able to notice the cut or they just choose not to notice to save some trouble for themselves (i know it may sounds racist but that girl is a minority and very aggressive to deal with). What could I do to help DD?

[Anonymous]

Either self defense class like martial arts, or teach her how to start yelling at people. I would do self defense so she can shove the offender out of line.

[Anonymous]

Just let it go. Life's too short.

[Anonymous]

Does DD want your help or is she just venting? As a kid, I was the type to be annoyed but realize that in the end, it wasn't something worth dwelling on or making a big deal of. I'd just want to vent. My mom would have said something to the girl, the mom, and the coach. And I would have hated that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either self defense class like martial arts, or teach her how to start yelling at people. I would do self defense so she can shove the offender out of line.

+1 this girl may be able to fight so need to be prepared to neutralize

[Anonymous]

"Cuts"? You can't be serious. Who cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One player in DD’s club always cut in front of DD when they are lining up for some drill. That girl is not in the same team with DD, but all girls in the club do skill session together. DD said that girl also cut in other girls but if others said no she would not continue. However when DD refuses, that girl just pretend not to hear. That girl’s mom is also rude, I know this is because when parents waiting on the side she never let other kid sit on the seat that she put her purse on. DD said too many girls on the session, so the coach won’t be able to notice the cut or they just choose not to notice to save some trouble for themselves (i know it may sounds racist but that girl is a minority and very aggressive to deal with). What could I do to help DD?

Child abuse!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One player in DD’s club always cut in front of DD when they are lining up for some drill. That girl is not in the same team with DD, but all girls in the club do skill session together. DD said that girl also cut in other girls but if others said no she would not continue. However when DD refuses, that girl just pretend not to hear. That girl’s mom is also rude, I know this is because when parents waiting on the side she never let other kid sit on the seat that she put her purse on. DD said too many girls on the session, so the coach won’t be able to notice the cut or they just choose not to notice to save some trouble for themselves (i know it may sounds racist but that girl is a minority and very aggressive to deal with). What could I do to help DD?

You know you can be aggressive AND white, right?

[Anonymous]

You don’t do anything. Tell DD to advocate for herself.

What age and level and sport?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t do anything. Tell DD to advocate for herself.

What age and level and sport?

I'm betting U9 soccer.

[Anonymous]

Cry me a river

[Anonymous]

You have to have a conversation with your DD about not letting kids line cut in front of them.

It's obvious to see from the coach's perspective. The Coach is not that blind.

But, you play team sports to learn how to deal with other people. I would say, teach your DD how to deal with it but raising her voice and not physically letting that kid cut the line.
Teach her to yell, "NO LINE CUTTING! -BACK OF THE LINE AND WAIT YOUR TURN LIKE EVERYONE ELSE!"

Teach your kid to stand your ground.
-It would be embarrassing if you went out there.
-Aside from teaching your own kid to deal with this issue, is you can e-mail the coach after practice.
-Lastly, bring the issue up to the other parent. How can you expect your kid to stand up for themselves if you avoid confrontation yourself.

-Do these 3 things, and the issue will get
sorted.

[Anonymous]

Is your kid still getting her turn?
Yes it’s rude, but if they’re all getting the same amount of time doing whatever it is, does it matter?

[Anonymous]

I tell my girls to stand up for themselves and not let other take advantage. I also tell them to let it slide once in a while, but stop it the moment it becomes habitual. Lastly, my girls understand (as I have spoke to them about it) that a confrontation might ensue and to be prepared for one - if they are not ready for one, not to start/push back. This has generally worked out and the culprit stood down or moved, but a few times it got (very mildly) physical. My kids have been into marshal arts for years and the sport they play can be physical anyway - the physical part of the confrontation ended quickly when my kids didn't back down and were ready to retaliate... please dont take this as me telling the girls to start fights, this is just about standing your ground and not being intimidated - maybe it helps that they are still under 13.

[Anonymous]

You can try to let the coach know but nothing else you can do. My DD had encountered someone like this an entire school year, even DD ignored her it still happened daily. I had chance to randomly meet the mom once at a school event, from the way she talked about others ( and looked down from those she talked about), and I knew why her child’s like that. Seems like your DD said something but it didn’t work. I would just suggest your DD to make as many friends at the club as possible, usually bullies come after others they think weak and no friends.