Gender disappointment
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Anonymous
| How do you support a family member going through tough emotions dealing with gender dissapoinment? SIL wanted boys, but just found out that she’s having her third daughter. That’s all she wants to talk to me about, and it’s tiresome, she cries and cries. But I still want to support her and be someone that she feels free to share her feelings with. |
Anonymous
| Don't take her call right away. If she sends you a text complaining about it, just send back a thumbs up or heart. Hopefully she'll get into acceptance mode soon. It is also okay to change the subject. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| I would listen one time and then try to change the subject or distance myself as quickly as possible after that. I would not want to validate that is really something to be very upset about. |
Anonymous
| Wow that’s sad for the baby. |
Anonymous
| I feel so sad for that poor baby. |
Anonymous
This is good advice but definitely do a heart emoji versus a thumbs up if she's really upset. Seems dumb but it will feel more sympathetic. |
Anonymous
| How long ago? |
Anonymous
Perfect advise. |
Anonymous
| Do you have only girls too? |
Anonymous
Is her DH’s family keen on boys? |
Anonymous
| That sounds like depression. Maybe she should see a therapist? If she's crying now, she's going to be seriously depressed once the baby is born and that's not good. |
Anonymous
| It’s weird that this is a thing. I know 3 UMC family’s with 4 kids. All 3 have 3 eldest girls. One has four girls and is considering a fifth. We know lots of 3 kid families with all boys or a combination of boys and girls. |
Anonymous
| My cousin married a man of a different culture where it was imperative to have a boy. She had 6 girls first. |
Anonymous
| Lol my cousin had a whole pink baby shower and on the very last appointment the baby flipped directions and surprise 😳 he’s a healthy baby boy. She was devastated |