Relationship burnout
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Anonymous
| 3 years into a relationship. We live together, moved in after 18 months. I am already feeling burnt out. He does a lot around the house but the mental load is the hard part. I have to initiate everything - I taught him how to get a credit card, save for retirement, increase his income, get a therapy and get him diagnosed for adhd, etc. I am realizing that I will be leading and he will be dragging. We are in our 40s, he’s actually older than me. Will it ever improve? |
Anonymous
| No. You are too old for a man baby. |
Anonymous
| He is in his 40’s? No, he is not changing. |
Anonymous
| No, this is his best behavior. |
Anonymous
| Ew. All that is very unattractive and unacceptable. Dump . Him. |
Anonymous
| Where did you even find a guy in his 40s without a credit card or 401K? |
Anonymous
| No. Did you want a child? |
Anonymous
This. Please don’t’ tell me you want to have children with him, too. You’ve already got one with him. Does he have ANY money saved for retirement? You’re going to be carrying him until one of you dies. |
Anonymous
| Nope. |
Anonymous
| Are you the one who posted about marriage? Definitely don't marry this guy. By his 40s he should know how to do this stuff. |
Anonymous
| Mens IQ varies a lot more than women. This one obviously doesn't enjoy thinking and cognition goes down not up as you age. |
Anonymous
| This guy should not have made it past date #3. Good grief. |
Anonymous
| He has ADHD. You did a good job there and now it's time to get out. |
Anonymous
Yuck. Glad you lived together first and could see how dependent and checked out he gets. No it won’t ever improve. He’s a failure to launch. |
Anonymous
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Gross.
He’s giving you the best he’s got Get out of this situationship. |