Texting/emailing other parents

[Anonymous]

If your kid is having an issue with another student, BF, friend, enemy, whoever, do you ever send their parents a note? Letting them know? Complaining? Or completely inappropriate and let the kids handle?

This is if it happens outside of school, otherwise you can go to the school for guidance.

[Anonymous]

I would never do so in writing. Too easy for any written words to be misunderstood.

[Anonymous]

That very much depends on how old the kids are, your relationship with the parents, and the type of issue.

Like when my then kindergartener got into a fight with his friend, whose parents I knew well, yeah we texted and had the boys apologize to each other and talk out their fight. Because they were 5 years old.

As kids get older, you let them handle more of the issues, depending on the severity.

[Anonymous]

Don’t do this. I just got a highly accusatory text from a parent demanding my DD apologize to hers. Turns out her DD completely made up a story to try to get my dd in trouble at home. It backfired big time. I will be saving those texts, just in case. And now i think the mother is an unhinged loon.

[Anonymous]

No, don’t do this. If it is a big enough deal, notify teacher and they can handle it. If it’s outside of school, take a break from that person

[Anonymous]

This would really depend on the age of the kids, what happened, and my existing relationship with the parents.

Generally I would say that when in any doubt at all- don’t. And IF you must, it is better to approach it more constructively- like “Larlo came home from the park quite upset about some sort of disagreement with Joey- not sure what exactly happened but did Joey mention anything?” versus “Larlo said Joey smacked him & purposely ruined his football” or whatever. Because the other kid will always have a different version, probably- whether true or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That very much depends on how old the kids are, your relationship with the parents, and the type of issue.

Like when my then kindergartener got into a fight with his friend, whose parents I knew well, yeah we texted and had the boys apologize to each other and talk out their fight. Because they were 5 years old.

As kids get older, you let them handle more of the issues, depending on the severity.

This. 🎵All the live long day🎶. There is nothing worse than a parent with no boundaries or awareness who keeps spam contacting you about the most trivial issues. Issues that are best handled by the school staff. Even if you only have a single child, parenting on its own, let alone other aspects of our lives, are quite challenging in these days and times. Your intuition will tell you what warrants parental contact. Starting this thread is that nudge of is this serious enough? IMO, it is not.

[Anonymous]

I say let the kids handle it. It’s a life skill. Assuming verbal or physical violence aren’t at play, of course.

[Anonymous]

For under 6 or so I ping the parent and ask them if they heard if anything happened at school/bus. Kids are unreliable narrators. I always want to believe my kid but they don't always get everything right. But if my kid tells me someone pushed/punched etc them then I follow up with a parent. For kids older than 2nd grade they figure it out for the most part. Sometimes I tell the teacher, I always tell my kid to tell the teacher or a grownup right after whatever happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That very much depends on how old the kids are, your relationship with the parents, and the type of issue.

Like when my then kindergartener got into a fight with his friend, whose parents I knew well, yeah we texted and had the boys apologize to each other and talk out their fight. Because they were 5 years old.

As kids get older, you let them handle more of the issues, depending on the severity.

This. 🎵All the live long day🎶. There is nothing worse than a parent with no boundaries or awareness who keeps spam contacting you about the most trivial issues. Issues that are best handled by the school staff. Even if you only have a single child, parenting on its own, let alone other aspects of our lives, are quite challenging in these days and times. Your intuition will tell you what warrants parental contact. Starting this thread is that nudge of is this serious enough? IMO, it is not.

This!

I once had a mom call me and want to debate Roblox with me. My kid didn’t even have access to Roblox at that time (he was six) and I just could not get it through this woman’s head that it couldn’t be my son who had stolen her child’s Roblox thing, it had to be another classmate pretending to be my son. She just didn’t understand that he didn’t even have a Roblox account, never uses our laptop, and couldn’t have downloaded the app onto our tablet without our permission. She also couldn’t believe that he was sitting right in front of us for the entire evening and hadn’t left our sight to even steal her son’s Roblox thing. It was the most ridiculous thing ever. I may have even posted about it here in real time because she just would not lay off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That very much depends on how old the kids are, your relationship with the parents, and the type of issue.

Like when my then kindergartener got into a fight with his friend, whose parents I knew well, yeah we texted and had the boys apologize to each other and talk out their fight. Because they were 5 years old.

As kids get older, you let them handle more of the issues, depending on the severity.

This. 🎵All the live long day🎶. There is nothing worse than a parent with no boundaries or awareness who keeps spam contacting you about the most trivial issues. Issues that are best handled by the school staff. Even if you only have a single child, parenting on its own, let alone other aspects of our lives, are quite challenging in these days and times. Your intuition will tell you what warrants parental contact. Starting this thread is that nudge of is this serious enough? IMO, it is not.

This!

I once had a mom call me and want to debate Roblox with me. My kid didn’t even have access to Roblox at that time (he was six) and I just could not get it through this woman’s head that it couldn’t be my son who had stolen her child’s Roblox thing, it had to be another classmate pretending to be my son. She just didn’t understand that he didn’t even have a Roblox account, never uses our laptop, and couldn’t have downloaded the app onto our tablet without our permission. She also couldn’t believe that he was sitting right in front of us for the entire evening and hadn’t left our sight to even steal her son’s Roblox thing. It was the most ridiculous thing ever. I may have even posted about it here in real time because she just would not lay off.

I had a mom email me about trash talk on some game and her kid was crying, so sad, at my mean kid who called hers "stupid" when it turns out her brat called mine and others "a f**king loser" repeatedly. Parents really need to get their stories straight before popping off to other parents. Always assume your kid played a role and come from it from that direction if you want anything productive out of this conversation. Or better yet, just don't get involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That very much depends on how old the kids are, your relationship with the parents, and the type of issue.

Like when my then kindergartener got into a fight with his friend, whose parents I knew well, yeah we texted and had the boys apologize to each other and talk out their fight. Because they were 5 years old.

As kids get older, you let them handle more of the issues, depending on the severity.

This. 🎵All the live long day🎶. There is nothing worse than a parent with no boundaries or awareness who keeps spam contacting you about the most trivial issues. Issues that are best handled by the school staff. Even if you only have a single child, parenting on its own, let alone other aspects of our lives, are quite challenging in these days and times. Your intuition will tell you what warrants parental contact. Starting this thread is that nudge of is this serious enough? IMO, it is not.

This!

I once had a mom call me and want to debate Roblox with me. My kid didn’t even have access to Roblox at that time (he was six) and I just could not get it through this woman’s head that it couldn’t be my son who had stolen her child’s Roblox thing, it had to be another classmate pretending to be my son. She just didn’t understand that he didn’t even have a Roblox account, never uses our laptop, and couldn’t have downloaded the app onto our tablet without our permission. She also couldn’t believe that he was sitting right in front of us for the entire evening and hadn’t left our sight to even steal her son’s Roblox thing. It was the most ridiculous thing ever. I may have even posted about it here in real time because she just would not lay off.

I had a mom email me about trash talk on some game and her kid was crying, so sad, at my mean kid who called hers "stupid" when it turns out her brat called mine and others "a f**king loser" repeatedly. Parents really need to get their stories straight before popping off to other parents. Always assume your kid played a role and come from it from that direction if you want anything productive out of this conversation. Or better yet, just don't get involved.

^ This jogged my memory and I have another story along these lines of a dad yelling at parents in a parent text group about mean talk to his daughter in a kid group chat. This was 3rd grade. I didn't allow my 3rd grader in text groups so I know it wasn't my kid but I also knew enough about this kid that she was a chronic mean bully at school, she had told my DD to kill herself and that she was ugly. It seems like the parents who do this have kids who are the biggest problem, in my experience. Or maybe the apples don't fall far from the tree.