Families and dating

[Anonymous]

In your mid forties and dating, when would you want a guy to invite you to family events in a relationship? How long until a relationship would you feel excluded if he didn't invite you?

[Anonymous]

Mid-40s so you're both divorced with kids?

In that case, maybe a year, if not more.

[Anonymous]

He's a 40 year old with a lot of relationships that came before you. I would say you're pretty unimportant. Meaning, not important at all that he introduce you to family, unless he wants to because he'd like them to meet you before a wedding. Unless there's a wedding is scheduled, I could see it being unimportant

[Anonymous]

Are you two exclusive?
Six month +

[Anonymous]

Depending on the guy somewhere between 6-9 months.

[Anonymous]

FWIW, I had been dating a guy for 3 weeks, was making him dinner at my apartment for the first time, when I invited him to a family wedding out of state. He came with me. We've now been married for 28 years

[Anonymous]

Depends-are you talking every day? How often do you see each other? What family? For kids I think reasonable can be all over the place because kids are so varied in how they deal with divorce or separation. I would not be surprised if it was a year or years.

If you mean parents or a sibling or cousin without kids involved 3-4 months would be a milestone for me where I might start thinking it's weird without any interaction if it's an intense relationship where people say they are in love. If the relationship is more casual 6 months or more.

[Anonymous]

For me, never. I am late 40s. I have zero interest in socializing with man’s friends or family. There is no need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, I had been dating a guy for 3 weeks, was making him dinner at my apartment for the first time, when I invited him to a family wedding out of state. He came with me. We've now been married for 28 years

It is different when you are young.

[Anonymous]

My parents refused to meet my boyfriend until we dated for a year. I'm 46.

[Anonymous]

Years ago, I met a guy's entire family on our second date. It backfired because I got VERY attached to them over the year we dated and was more sad to lose them than him when we broke up.

My last two boyfriends I chose not to meet their parents or kids because I knew we were probably doomed. But I've met quite a few families over the years.

[Anonymous]

At 40, they don't need to meet you unless the two of you are getting married.

[Anonymous]

I think it significantly differs if you have kids and are including those kids as "family" in this. If no kids, maybe 6 months. If kids, maybe never.

[Anonymous]

Ive been dating my bf for a year and a half. We havent met each other's kids yet. My family is local, his family is spread out.

After 3 months, we went to dinner with my parents and then a few weeks later, his parents came in to visit and we went to a comedy show.

Around 6 months, I started bringing him to my family functions if I dont have my kids. At 8 months, I went home to his parents house with him for a weekend visit.

My extended family will invite me somewhere and ask if I'm bringing the kids or my bf. Its a weird stage of life.

[Anonymous]

Some families are into that, some aren't, it's not a judgment on how much he likes you. Personally I would find it annoying to always have new people invited to family stuff, especially if it hasn't been very long. Six months I guess.