What is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I work remotely but do often have meetings with group/boss. I had a meeting with boss today and she was extremely complimentary about my work on a specific ongoing project. We talked about various aspects of it in detail, then she asked if I had questions and like a moron I said yes and explained an issue I have been having trouble with. I am not reassessing it in my head over and over again: why did I even bring that up? I sounded like I actually do NOT know what I am doing...But my brain went there because I actually DO have trouble with this aspect and do not want to do it wrong and was hoping for guidance to do a better job. Most people though would not have brought this up and would have just said everything is peachy, I have no more question. I do this ALL the time and then will replay it in my head endlessly and ruin my day/week over it.

[Anonymous]

Respectfully, you are way overthinking. Having questions means you're thinking about the issues thoroughly and that you care. It can lead to great substantive questions. She already complimented your work and likely appreciated that you didn't leave it at that, but rather, tried to problem solve and delve deeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Respectfully, you are way overthinking. Having questions means you're thinking about the issues thoroughly and that you care. It can lead to great substantive questions. She already complimented your work and likely appreciated that you didn't leave it at that, but rather, tried to problem solve and delve deeper.

The questions were about the work she praised though, so it made it seem like I had done the work wrong because she expected it handled y way and I handled some of it x way (due to overthinking details which is what I was trying to solve: how to specifically handle the details without overthinking while still being thorough) Idk, I feel like most people are able to just take a compliment, say no more questions and move on and here I am shooting myself in the foot because I AM trying to be diligent but just expose incompetence instead.