Relationship compatibility and travel

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised it's such a big deal to people whether their partner likes to travel or not especially for older couples. If this is a big deal to you can you explain why. Dating someone who does not want to leave the country ever and wondering whether this is something that won't work for a LTR. In 40s if it matters so looking ahead to what life might look like as we get older.

[Anonymous]

It's pretty simple. They are not going to travel outside of the country. Don't expect to convince them. So the question is are you ok with doing so alone, or with friends and other family members? And when your partner is old and frail, is there someone who could look out for them while you are traveling abroad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised it's such a big deal to people whether their partner likes to travel or not especially for older couples. If this is a big deal to you can you explain why. Dating someone who does not want to leave the country ever and wondering whether this is something that won't work for a LTR. In 40s if it matters so looking ahead to what life might look like as we get older.

I'm truly struggling to comprehend how you can make it through the day but you cannot begin to grasp this concept. If someone likes to travel, they would want to be with someone who also likes to travel.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's good to ask. It's good to open your mind, that it doesn't need to be a problem. DH & I have had a long, happy marriage and during our marriage, I have probably traveled 3 - 4X the amount he has. We have done a couple significant international trips together. But me, a lot more. Sometimes a trip is tweaked so he will be happier to go. Many times I stay longer, or I leave from there and continue somewhere else. I travel to see family, old friends, our kids. I travel solo, internationally or short weekend trips. I've done group tours solo. I'm happy wandering. He's happier at home.

It does not need to be a problem. You do need your own money, so how you spend it is not up for debate.

[Anonymous]

14:53 poster again. I'm 65 btw. Married 30 years

[Anonymous]

I enjoy traveling. I like experiencing different cultures, food, geography, etc. It is a big part of what I enjoy, so it wouldn't make sense to marry someone who didn't share that interest. It's also important that your travel styles are similar. I'm not a "major tourist attractions", "tour" or "never go off the beaten path" type.

[Anonymous]

Most Americans just go to resorts in the Caribbean or Mexico anyways

[Anonymous]

My DH has become less interested in travel over time. Things change. So I take trips with friends or ski trips with my adult kids. I would love for DH to travel more, but if he doesn't I am not going to sit at home.

[Anonymous]

It's one indication of compatibility that matters to some people. There's nothing wrong with not liking to travel but sometimes it comes withe overall incuriosity about the world outside their immediate orbit.

I dated someone I liked in many ways but he didn't have even a passing interest in travel, food, art, design or history, all of which I'm into. I didn't realize how active I am until I dated someone who isn't active at all. He's crazy smart and very funny but my interests seemed to annoy him and his lack of interest in my interests annoyed me. So we didn't end up being a good match. Sitting in his living room watching Netflix we got along great. I just can't do that all the time.