Hiw old is too old to travel by yourself? 85?

[Anonymous]

My mother is 89, worried about her continuing national nevermind international travel. At least she’s not driving.

[Anonymous]

There’s no warning when falls start to be an issue. I’d have her evaluated by an Occupational Therapist or Physical Therapist for gait, balance and maybe a speech therapist for language, judgement, to see if elderly person can advocate for themselves. You probably should start with her MD just to have a discussion about it.

[Anonymous]

Some people could travel fine up to 90 or over. Some people can't at 65. It just depends. Very case-by-case basis kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s no warning when falls start to be an issue. I’d have her evaluated by an Occupational Therapist or Physical Therapist for gait, balance and maybe a speech therapist for language, judgement, to see if elderly person can advocate for themselves. You probably should start with her MD just to have a discussion about it.

The mother is not a child. You sound obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

I am younger than your mom, but was a bit worried that I might have a medical crisis while I overseas alone.

My older friend had a rather harsh but also wise response: “would you rather die alone in Europe on vacation or alone on your couch watching TV? “

[Anonymous]

I mean, I would only worry about the trouble it brings you if something happens. Since she is an adult and you are not obligated to go save her from some hospital abroad, I would let her be. Just have some boundaries in mind, like, I’ll rescue her from X situation but not Y.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am younger than your mom, but was a bit worried that I might have a medical crisis while I overseas alone.

My older friend had a rather harsh but also wise response: “would you rather die alone in Europe on vacation or alone on your couch watching TV? “

Exactly, as long as your kids don’t have to come rescue you or make final arrangements across the globe

[Anonymous]

I’d ask her to make sure she has insurance to cover her getting back to the states if medical issues arise while she is overseas. Does she travel on group tours or solo?

[Anonymous]

My grandmother traveled around the world when she was 90. Met up with her sister who was a few years older to tour around a bunch of tourist sites.

They lived to 101 and 104, respectively.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am younger than your mom, but was a bit worried that I might have a medical crisis while I overseas alone.

My older friend had a rather harsh but also wise response: “would you rather die alone in Europe on vacation or alone on your couch watching TV? “

Exactly, as long as your kids don’t have to come rescue you or make final arrangements across the globe

I’d happily rescue my mom abroad. I want her to get every drop out of life that she wishes. 89 and still going strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am younger than your mom, but was a bit worried that I might have a medical crisis while I overseas alone.

My older friend had a rather harsh but also wise response: “would you rather die alone in Europe on vacation or alone on your couch watching TV? “

Yep.

It might be tricky to get travel medical insurance at her age though.

[Anonymous]

Such a stupid question.

Age is not the indicator. A calendar does not determine one’s abilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d ask her to make sure she has insurance to cover her getting back to the states if medical issues arise while she is overseas. Does she travel on group tours or solo?

+1

Or even just get her an annual policy.

[Anonymous]

Is she really traveling alone? Or with friends?
My aunt travels a lot at 90 indpeenently but she is in amazing health. She was the primary caregiver for 3 others with Alzheimer’s. She’s sharp and strong. She takes flights by herself with no problem but I don’t think she really travels by herself because she’d be bored so waits until a friend is available. She will go into the city to the museum or opera by herself though.

The worat was when she insisted on walking 10 blocks across th city to see us (outdoors) when she had covid. She was mad we insisted on walking her back but honestly I had trouble keeping up with her. She’s a force. Some people are just like that. I’m sure she’ll die eventually but I honestly can’t imagine it!

In case someone asks what her secret is….ill just say that she has worn comfortable shoes her entire life, has always been a good cook who eats all natural home cooked food of great variety, and has a lot of interests.

[Anonymous]

I hear they have hospitals in other places. And doctors too. People are kind everywhere. And if someone collapses, medical help would be called, by someone

Yeah, something might happen. Something could happen just like something could happen somewhere very ordinary, like the bathroom of her own home.