Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited

[Anonymous]

makes sense bc my siblings live out of town. BUT one of them will likely be visiting at the same time.

Do I ask the host for an extra invite? They probably would have been invited if local

[Anonymous]

Ask the host. I've never heard of out-of-town relatives being excluded unless there was another reason.

[Anonymous]

This makes no sense OP at all
No one has a bar mitzvah and leaves out family unless there is an issue more than they live out of town

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask the host. I've never heard of out-of-town relatives being excluded unless there was another reason.

Op. My immediate family is not Jewish, live far away and the bar mitzvah is not a huge event. It’s no more than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This makes no sense OP at all
No one has a bar mitzvah and leaves out family unless there is an issue more than they live out of town

They’re not Jewish.

[Anonymous]

Not being Jewish is irrelevant

[Anonymous]

I'd ask if your invite includes a plus one, because your brother is in town, and I assume they'd say of course, he can come and bring his family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not being Jewish is irrelevant

This might be a shock to you but to some people a bar mitzvah isn’t a world event. They don’t expect others who don’t practice Judaism to take time off to travel to attend a religious event they know little about.

Your selfishness is interesting to watch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not being Jewish is irrelevant

This might be a shock to you but to some people a bar mitzvah isn’t a world event. They don’t expect others who don’t practice Judaism to take time off to travel to attend a religious event they know little about.

Your selfishness is interesting to watch

NP. I think you've misconstrued the PP's intent. I took it as being Jewish is not a prerequisite for being invited. I'm not Jewish and growing up I attended many bar and bat mitzvahs. I think you need to think beyond your own narrow lens.

[Anonymous]

You don’t ask for an invitation. You say “hey, I didn’t know if you realized X would be in town on the day of the bar mitzvah. Just wanted to mention it in case you wanted to invite them.” And change the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not being Jewish is irrelevant

This might be a shock to you but to some people a bar mitzvah isn’t a world event. They don’t expect others who don’t practice Judaism to take time off to travel to attend a religious event they know little about.

Your selfishness is interesting to watch

Omfg. They’re not local. That’s the difference. And the bar mitzvah is a small one.

Reading comp is a skill. You obviously don’t have it

NP. I think you've misconstrued the PP's intent. I took it as being Jewish is not a prerequisite for being invited. I'm not Jewish and growing up I attended many bar and bat mitzvahs. I think you need to think beyond your own narrow lens.

[Anonymous]

I would find a way to mention that your sibling is going to be in town. It would be rude to ask for an invitation, but once they know sibling will be there anyway they will probably invite them.