Options when dog can’t sleep in bed with me and DH

[Anonymous]

For the last 6+ years, our maltipoo has slept with my teens. Our dog is sweet and cuddly and beloved by all, so they used to fight about who got her. But one by one they’ve left for college and now there’s just 1 graduating senior. The couple times she had sleepovers, the dog slept with DH and I and that’s just not going to be the solution. It just doesn’t work for me to get a good nights sleep. When DH travels she sleeps with me and it’s fine but the 3 of us just don’t work.
But we’ve created a monster. What should I do? I can’t imagine just locking the door but is that the solution? If we got her the best dogbed for our room I bet she’d still jump on our bed, but can that be trained? She loves to be touching someone, not just in the same room, all the time.
Help please! I have plenty of time to figure this out (by next fall) but am already worried.

[Anonymous]

DH needs a separate bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Not many options given the age of the dog, might be hard to retrain.
So, if you don't have problems with dog sleeping in your bed in general - maybe get a bigger bed, so 3 of you can sleep comfortably?
Or maybe something like co-sleeping baby bed next to you so it's close and you can reach out to pet but dog is not taking up space on your bed?
If sleeping on your bed is not an option
- comfortable doggy bed in your room, and and training -training-training. Click-treat staying there, naming it (place or bed or whatever) and sending dog there at the night time. He might still climb to your bed, you just have to consistently send it back to doggy bed.
Good luck

[Anonymous]

I have the same struggle. I gave up and bought a bigger bed. Our lab sleeps in the middle.
I could crate him or lock the door but I don’t want to. Spouse works til midnight 5 days a week and I kinda like having the dog in the bed as I fall asleep.

[Anonymous]

I just going through the struggle with newly adopted dog. As a foster, I never allow dogs on the bed - I don't like my own dog to sleep with me, so none of the fosters were allowed too. Until I got this guy - he wouldn't sleep in crate in another room, nor in the crate in our room. When I let him out of the crate - he climbed straight to our bed. Couple weeks in we managed to teach him that he's not welcome on our bed (off command). He still weasels in in the middle of the night when I'm asleep... It's never ending battle, but I'm getting more uninterrupted sleep this way.

[Anonymous]

Yep, we got a king bed. Similar sized dog. We put her cuddle bed in the middle of the bed and have her sleep in that and she feels cuddly and close to us. She would like to be touching up against me, but will push me to the edge of the bed. So her bed on our bed is the compromise.

She goes thru stages where she will get off the bed and sleep on a blanket in the closet. If we let her, she would go down to her favorite chair in the living room, but then she starts barking early with trash trucks etc.

But I’m a totally softy. If you are stronger willed you may be able to teach her to sleep in her bed in your room or a dog playpen. I like the other suggestion of the arms reach baby Cosleeper too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the last 6+ years, our maltipoo has slept with my teens. Our dog is sweet and cuddly and beloved by all, so they used to fight about who got her. But one by one they’ve left for college and now there’s just 1 graduating senior. The couple times she had sleepovers, the dog slept with DH and I and that’s just not going to be the solution. It just doesn’t work for me to get a good nights sleep. When DH travels she sleeps with me and it’s fine but the 3 of us just don’t work.
But we’ve created a monster. What should I do? I can’t imagine just locking the door but is that the solution? If we got her the best dogbed for our room I bet she’d still jump on our bed, but can that be trained? She loves to be touching someone, not just in the same room, all the time.
Help please! I have plenty of time to figure this out (by next fall) but am already worried.

This is why dogs sleep in their kennels.

You did this.

Shame on you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the last 6+ years, our maltipoo has slept with my teens. Our dog is sweet and cuddly and beloved by all, so they used to fight about who got her. But one by one they’ve left for college and now there’s just 1 graduating senior. The couple times she had sleepovers, the dog slept with DH and I and that’s just not going to be the solution. It just doesn’t work for me to get a good nights sleep. When DH travels she sleeps with me and it’s fine but the 3 of us just don’t work.
But we’ve created a monster. What should I do? I can’t imagine just locking the door but is that the solution? If we got her the best dogbed for our room I bet she’d still jump on our bed, but can that be trained? She loves to be touching someone, not just in the same room, all the time.
Help please! I have plenty of time to figure this out (by next fall) but am already worried.

This is why dogs sleep in their kennels.

You did this.

Shame on you

DP. That is your opinion. It is not everyone's opinion. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the last 6+ years, our maltipoo has slept with my teens. Our dog is sweet and cuddly and beloved by all, so they used to fight about who got her. But one by one they’ve left for college and now there’s just 1 graduating senior. The couple times she had sleepovers, the dog slept with DH and I and that’s just not going to be the solution. It just doesn’t work for me to get a good nights sleep. When DH travels she sleeps with me and it’s fine but the 3 of us just don’t work.
But we’ve created a monster. What should I do? I can’t imagine just locking the door but is that the solution? If we got her the best dogbed for our room I bet she’d still jump on our bed, but can that be trained? She loves to be touching someone, not just in the same room, all the time.
Help please! I have plenty of time to figure this out (by next fall) but am already worried.

This is why dogs sleep in their kennels.

You did this.

Shame on you

Yes, her kids have made memories with a loving childhood dog who gives them snuggles. What a monster OP is.

[Anonymous]

Get a bigger bed or a baby cosleeper bed and put her next to you.

[Anonymous]

Crate your dog at night.

[Anonymous]

Deal with it, get a bigger bed, put a dog bed in your room. I got used to it.

[Anonymous]

King size bed.

I put a cozy pet bed toward the end of my bed for my ancient cat. It goes between DH's and my feet. A small dog might like that, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH needs a separate bedroom.

Lol. I was going to say, "well, DH sleeps in the guest room and I sleep with 160 lbs of retrievers and that works for us...." Otherwise, king bed or the side sleeper idea.

[Anonymous]

Get a side sleeper for babies. I’m pretty sure that would work for a small dog. How small is your bed that a maltipoo makes it impossible to sleep?