Any advice appreciated

[Anonymous]

Our marriage of 25 years has hit rock bottom. We are both 56.
Part of me wants to salvage it.
Is it best to try to push for simple activities such as watch TV together or let it go? He seems to not care for it.
My question is if we let it go without any more effort does the distance not get just bigger ?
Or should I let it be as is.

[Anonymous]

Uh, I think watching tv together won't fix your marriage. You need to talk to him about that your marriage seems to have hit rock bottom and is he interested in trying to salvage it, and then go from there.

[Anonymous]

Suggest a few (decide on amount at start) marital counseling sessions. They can advise if based on issues adding a date night, check-in time, or what can be a first step.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course, keep trying. There’s always hope. And divorce is expensive.

[Anonymous]

Focus on positive interactions and not just on hammering things out no matter how tempting that might be. Your idea to spend time together is good but watching TV isn’t going to move the needle. Can you try something a bit more fun and adventurous?

[Anonymous]

Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Is there anything at all you still enjoy together or about your spouse? Start there.

[Anonymous]

Try and work it out. Im doing the same some days are much harder than others. Watch tv go on a walk but try to spend time with him.

[Anonymous]

Op here It’s clear he doesn’t want to do things together anymore.
So an adventurous outting is out of the question. There is however his office dinner he wants me to attend.
We don’t talk unless needed to.
It’s taking a toll on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here It’s clear he doesn’t want to do things together anymore.
So an adventurous outting is out of the question. There is however his office dinner he wants me to attend.
We don’t talk unless needed to.
It’s taking a toll on me.

Are you still having sex ? If so, then put on something sexy and let him know tonight is the night. Sex fixes alot of problems from a man’s perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here It’s clear he doesn’t want to do things together anymore.
So an adventurous outting is out of the question. There is however his office dinner he wants me to attend.
We don’t talk unless needed to.
It’s taking a toll on me.

Are you still having sex ? If so, then put on something sexy and let him know tonight is the night. Sex fixes alot of problems from a man’s perspective.

No we are not. Need lot of communication first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here It’s clear he doesn’t want to do things together anymore.
So an adventurous outting is out of the question. There is however his office dinner he wants me to attend.
We don’t talk unless needed to.
It’s taking a toll on me.

Are you still having sex ? If so, then put on something sexy and let him know tonight is the night. Sex fixes alot of problems from a man’s perspective.

No we are not. Need lot of communication first.

He doesn't even try, or he tries and you deny?

[Anonymous]

I have initiated lot of the last few times, he isnt satisfied … then we stopped.

[Anonymous]

Is his penis broken?

[Anonymous]

You are talking in circle. Why doesn’t he want to do things together anymore? There are problems between the two of you that you don’t want to talk about.