Room sharing as kids get older

[Anonymous]

If you have a boy and a girl, did they share a room as they got older (9-10+)? My daughter is older and I wonder if she’d be okay sharing a room with her brother as she becomes a teen. Any insight would be appreciated!

[Anonymous]

Can you install a temporary wall down the middle? One "room" won't be legal unless you have a window in each area, but I've seen it done in NYC a lot.

[Anonymous]

No, once our daughter was around 10 we realized we needed to figure a way for her to have her own space moving forward. Which may or may not be possible depending on your house, but if you have even a small room somewhere on the main floor or wherever that can be converted into a bedroom, you should go for it. If that’s not an option in your home, you should look into ways to create two separate, private spaces in the shared room if possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, once our daughter was around 10 we realized we needed to figure a way for her to have her own space moving forward. Which may or may not be possible depending on your house, but if you have even a small room somewhere on the main floor or wherever that can be converted into a bedroom, you should go for it. If that’s not an option in your home, you should look into ways to create two separate, private spaces in the shared room if possible.

+1 my DS10 and DD8 have their own rooms, but I know they would both be uncomfortable sharing a room at this point.

[Anonymous]

People raising kids in cities have done this for decades. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Brothers and sisters need their own space as pre-teens and teens.

[Anonymous]

My niece and nephew still share a room and they’re 10 and 14. No issues so far. They’re in Brooklyn, it’s never changing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My niece and nephew still share a room and they’re 10 and 14. No issues so far. They’re in Brooklyn, it’s never changing.

+1

[Anonymous]

If it’s necessary, sure, not everyone can afford 3 bedrooms. But if you have the space, it is definitely worth making the office into a bedroom or doing whatever you can to give them privacy. My son is 13, he sleeps in his underwear and thinks nothing of wandering around the house like that. My daughters are 8 and 11 and neither would feel comfortable changing around their brother anymore. Especially the 11 year old, she’s going thru puberty and would freak out if her brother would walk in on her changing.

[Anonymous]

My kids shared a room, until the older (girl) decided to claim the guestroom. But I know other kids (boy/girl) who continued sharing a room. It really depends on the kids. Mine liked sharing a room when they were young, but separated when the older (girl) was in early/mid elementary.

[Anonymous]

No. Please don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People raising kids in cities have done this for decades. No big deal.

+100

As long as they have a space to get changed privately (which can be the bathroom).

I think the other consideration is just temperament (if this is an optional decision). Can they share a room without constantly fighting? If not, and you do have an option for separate rooms, it might be worth it to give them each their own rooms for your own sanity.

I have DCs in late elementary who decided they wanted to go back to sharing a bedroom because they enjoy doing their bedtime routines together. However, they still have the separate rooms to go to when they need time apart, which they definitely need sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People raising kids in cities have done this for decades. No big deal.

+100

As long as they have a space to get changed privately (which can be the bathroom).

I think the other consideration is just temperament (if this is an optional decision). Can they share a room without constantly fighting? If not, and you do have an option for separate rooms, it might be worth it to give them each their own rooms for your own sanity.

I have DCs in late elementary who decided they wanted to go back to sharing a bedroom because they enjoy doing their bedtime routines together. However, they still have the separate rooms to go to when they need time apart, which they definitely need sometimes.

Why do they need a space to change privately? What's the problem with siblings briefly seeing each other naked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People raising kids in cities have done this for decades. No big deal.

+100

As long as they have a space to get changed privately (which can be the bathroom).

I think the other consideration is just temperament (if this is an optional decision). Can they share a room without constantly fighting? If not, and you do have an option for separate rooms, it might be worth it to give them each their own rooms for your own sanity.

I have DCs in late elementary who decided they wanted to go back to sharing a bedroom because they enjoy doing their bedtime routines together. However, they still have the separate rooms to go to when they need time apart, which they definitely need sometimes.

Why do they need a space to change privately? What's the problem with siblings briefly seeing each other naked?

Are you for real? Once the kids are out of toddlerhood, it's not appropriate!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People raising kids in cities have done this for decades. No big deal.

+100

As long as they have a space to get changed privately (which can be the bathroom).

I think the other consideration is just temperament (if this is an optional decision). Can they share a room without constantly fighting? If not, and you do have an option for separate rooms, it might be worth it to give them each their own rooms for your own sanity.

I have DCs in late elementary who decided they wanted to go back to sharing a bedroom because they enjoy doing their bedtime routines together. However, they still have the separate rooms to go to when they need time apart, which they definitely need sometimes.

Why do they need a space to change privately? What's the problem with siblings briefly seeing each other naked?

Are you for real? Once the kids are out of toddlerhood, it's not appropriate!

Out of toddlerhood?! You'd be scandalized by my house.

My dd and ds shared a room until 10 and 8. We just carved a tiny room out of our living area for dd-- it's exactly the width of a twin bed and the door can't open all the way. So it's like 6'x4' with a window but no closet. She loves it.