Bed wetting alarm not effective?

[Anonymous]

Thanks to advice on this forum about bed wetting alarms, we have been using one for the past few weeks and hopefully we are starting to make the connection for my DD who is 7

Recently in the past few weeks we have seen issues with her behaviour. She has been more irritable and we think it is because she is tired from the night wake ups we are having her wake in the night (we are having to wake her, she doesn't wake from the alarm) and making her help with the laundry. Did you carry on using the alarm consistently or did you take pauses? What should I do as we probably will need the alarm for months yet?

[Anonymous]

It worked really well for us at 8. If the alarm is not waking her maybe you could find a louder one or vibration? Maybe drop the laundry part if it feels like a punishment. She is a deep sleeper with a small bladder...not a misbehaving kid.

[Anonymous]

It’s not the right time for your kid. 7 seems too old to be night wetting, but it’s not. Biologically your child isn’t ready yet, ask any pediatrician.

Keep the alarm in a closet and start again next year.

[Anonymous]

It worked quickly for us at age 8. Agree she may not be ready yet. Does she want this or do you? My kid was very motivated to stop wetting at night.

[Anonymous]

Sleep matters more than wearing a pull-up at 7.
My DD wet at night until around 8.5. Stop disrupting everyone’s sleep and making her do laundry for something she can’t help in the middle of the night is cruel.
Go back to night pull-ups and give her a break.

[Anonymous]

Please stop with the laundry. It sounds like you think she can control it and deserves some chore because of it. This is physiological. She’s in such a deep sleep that her body can’t hear the “alarm” internally that she needs to pee.

Hopefully you are using pads on the bed over the top sheet that you can swipe out quickly so that she can quickly go back to sleep. If not, order a bunch from The Bedwetting Store online. It saves you from having to change the sheets every night.

And hopefully you are getting to her as quickly as possible to get her feet on the floor and into the bathroom. That is is key to the alarm working. We ended up using a baby monitor so that we could hear it immediately.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I would not recommend the alarm at age 7. It is more important that she gets a full uninterrupted sleep. Go back to nighttime diapers for at least another year or more.

[Anonymous]

My son is almost 9 and we started the alarm at the end of November. We are finally starting to see some consistent dry nights. It has taken us a long time. We went from the alarm going off 2-3 times per night, to once per night, to the time of the wetting getting closer to morning rather than midnight, to a dry night here and there, to more dry nights than not. We aren't completely done but we are getting there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It worked really well for us at 8. If the alarm is not waking her maybe you could find a louder one or vibration? Maybe drop the laundry part if it feels like a punishment. She is a deep sleeper with a small bladder...not a misbehaving kid.

Op here which one did you use? I guess it makes sense to not make a big deal of the laundry but I worry with no consequence she will have no interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is almost 9 and we started the alarm at the end of November. We are finally starting to see some consistent dry nights. It has taken us a long time. We went from the alarm going off 2-3 times per night, to once per night, to the time of the wetting getting closer to morning rather than midnight, to a dry night here and there, to more dry nights than not. We aren't completely done but we are getting there.

Do you give him the choice if he wants to still wear pull-ups for bed? Does he want to use the alarm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It worked quickly for us at age 8. Agree she may not be ready yet. Does she want this or do you? My kid was very motivated to stop wetting at night.

I think we both want it. She isn't upset by it yet and didn't mind the Huggies pull ups, but we did have to say when she turned 7 that she is now a bit too old for them. I know there are goodnites but it felt the same. I am very motivated I don't want to have to deal with it every morning and night so was helping her as much as possible to train

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sleep matters more than wearing a pull-up at 7.
My DD wet at night until around 8.5. Stop disrupting everyone’s sleep and making her do laundry for something she can’t help in the middle of the night is cruel.
Go back to night pull-ups and give her a break.

It wasn't out of cruelty but a lot of people are saying 8 or 9 so it will be good for us all to get sleep. I will probably get the remaining pull ups out of our closet and use them tonight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please stop with the laundry. It sounds like you think she can control it and deserves some chore because of it. This is physiological. She’s in such a deep sleep that her body can’t hear the “alarm” internally that she needs to pee.

Hopefully you are using pads on the bed over the top sheet that you can swipe out quickly so that she can quickly go back to sleep. If not, order a bunch from The Bedwetting Store online. It saves you from having to change the sheets every night.

And hopefully you are getting to her as quickly as possible to get her feet on the floor and into the bathroom. That is is key to the alarm working. We ended up using a baby monitor so that we could hear it immediately.

Good luck.

Op here, the more I read the more I see I am wrong with the laundry. We shall sit down and apologise to her instead of just stopping it so she knows we made a mistake.

I lift her while she's waking so she is in the bathroom as fast as possible, someone recommended that instead of trying to nudge her as her bladder was mostly empty by the time we got her there

[Anonymous]

You can not “train” for night time dryness. Her body is not physically ready. Talk to her ped if you are concerned. Do not punish her with laundry. That sounds cruel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It worked quickly for us at age 8. Agree she may not be ready yet. Does she want this or do you? My kid was very motivated to stop wetting at night.

I think we both want it. She isn't upset by it yet and didn't mind the Huggies pull ups, but we did have to say when she turned 7 that she is now a bit too old for them. I know there are goodnites but it felt the same. I am very motivated I don't want to have to deal with it every morning and night so was helping her as much as possible to train

Age 7 is not too old for pull-ups at night. There are many children who use them at this age and even older. There should be no shame in her wearing it.