This is so stupid but please humor me
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Anonymous
| Years ago I had a very toxic friendship that really damaged my ability to trust people as a whole. I'm fine obviously outwardly, but just have not made any new good friends since, and that aspect of my life is just something I've accepted. I was on instagram yesterday and that person (I do not follow them and have unfollowed most people we had in common, but we do have general acquaintances in common in our general area) was suggested to me. Like an idiot I clicked on profile and then on story as I got distracted by something else. Do you think the person will notice or do anything about it, or just not even care? |
Anonymous
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They might not notice at all. They might notice briefly and then forget immediately because it is nothing to them. They might noticed and get all obsessed and think bad things about you and try to DM you awful things.
No matter what, just let it go. Take really big breaths, and with long exhales picture evil noxious gas (all your feelings about the situation, and the whole situation in general) leaving your body. Do this for a while. Get it out. Move on. Oh, and block them. Don't look at them again, and don't give them to opportunity to look at your profile or anything. Move on. Sorry this happened. I can relate, for sure. |
Anonymous
| I don't even understand what the question is, OP. Why do you even care whether or not this person notices? Unless you're afraid they're going to stalk, threaten and harass you, in which case you'd contact police, there's nothing to fear. You really need therapy and meds for your social anxiety. |
Anonymous
Thank you. I am kicking myself because in many years I've maybe looked at the person's profile three times total. I have no idea why I distractedly clicked on a story today. Cannot block because I think that would seem more aggressive if they noticed (which would not matter if we lived very far or didn't have common acquaintances but we do), but I know you are right and I need to somehow let it go. |
Anonymous
You are WAY overthinking this. How old are you? |
Anonymous
| The person may think you are stalking. A restraining order might be coming your way. This person has not forgotten, will never forgive, and blames you for the toxic stew that was once a relationship. |
Anonymous
| So what if they care? What they care about has no bearing on your life. |
Anonymous
| People can see who has looked at their story, no way to know if she will look. I would block and forget. |
Anonymous
| The only way you can salvage this situation is to change your name & move to Mongolia. |
Anonymous
| Depends on just how crazy this person is. |
Anonymous
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OP, you are getting responses from obnoxious crazy people who enjoy lashing out at people on the internet.
Ignore that. Just try to forget this person and the story you clicked on. And I would just go ahead and block them -- don't worry about it seeming "more aggressive" and don't worry about people you know in common. Blocking the person is very normal in these circumstances -- realizing you are seeing posts from someone you don't need to be reminded of. Block away. Not a big deal. |
Anonymous
They won't know you blocked them unless you have a lot of mutuals on social media. If you don't then it will be like you don't exist/removed your profile. It's not like Twitter. |
Anonymous
and they're probably going to call the police, and the fbi, and maybe tell Santa. |
Anonymous
| Doesn’t matter. Block them if you feel unsafe |
Anonymous
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They may have popped up on your page because they were looking at/for your information.
I would block them if you can--they won't get a notice about it. |