DD scared of teacher more than seems normal

[Anonymous]

DD 16 is absolutely petrified of her chemistry teacher. At first I thought, ok, we’ve all had teachers who scare us a little, whatevs. But the issue has grown. She seems almost worried that the teacher is not totally stable mentally. She’ll come home saying stuff like, “Today Ms. X seemed even crazier than usual.” Her grades in the class are slipping and she’s even had a nightmare. She’s gonna remain in the teacher’s class next semester. Is there any possible way I could get her guidance counselor to move her schedule around or even just help her with her fears

[Anonymous]

Have you asked her what specifically about the teacher scarfed her? Has she explained what is going on?

How are her friends in the same class doing?

[Anonymous]

Very odd. The counselor should talk to your daughter for sure but a class change isn’t necessarily their first move this late in the year unless they determine that the class placement is causative of poor grades that would be resolved in a different environment.

[Anonymous]

No. Stop trying to rescue your kid. Unless the teacher is abusive, your kid will survive. Land the helicopter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Stop trying to rescue your kid. Unless the teacher is abusive, your kid will survive. Land the helicopter.

+1. She doesn’t like the teacher. There’s nothing to contact the counselor over.

[Anonymous]

Tell them to have fun with it. I had a legitimately evil teacher that I set up traps to get him reprimanded by the principal. Though, I know the principal already didn't like him.

I had another teacher that was mentally unstable that other kids would try to make cry. I thought that was too mean, but other kids found it to be a helpful coping strategy.

[Anonymous]

My first reaction would be that my kid had an anxiety problem, not that the teacher is “mentally unstable”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them to have fun with it. I had a legitimately evil teacher that I set up traps to get him reprimanded by the principal. Though, I know the principal already didn't like him.

I had another teacher that was mentally unstable that other kids would try to make cry. I thought that was too mean, but other kids found it to be a helpful coping strategy.

Omg that’s so cool

[Anonymous]

Without knowing what the teacher did, it's impossible to know if the problem is with the teacher or the student. But regardless your daughter is in high school -- if anyone is going to contact the counselor, it should be her, not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them to have fun with it. I had a legitimately evil teacher that I set up traps to get him reprimanded by the principal. Though, I know the principal already didn't like him.

I had another teacher that was mentally unstable that other kids would try to make cry. I thought that was too mean, but other kids found it to be a helpful coping strategy.

I hope you’re just trolling here. If not, that’s disgusting behavior.

[Anonymous]

Why are you not giving more details, OP? If you don't know them, you need to get them out of your daughter. This is important because right now, you have no way of knowing whether she's unreasonable or whether the teacher is truly out of line.

Story: the younger sister of one of my childhood friends started complaining about fellow students and teachers as a teen. At first, her parents believed her. It later turned out that it was paranoia, and that this teen had schizophrenia.

You absolutely need to verify as much as you can before you act on information received.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell them to have fun with it. I had a legitimately evil teacher that I set up traps to get him reprimanded by the principal. Though, I know the principal already didn't like him.

I had another teacher that was mentally unstable that other kids would try to make cry. I thought that was too mean, but other kids found it to be a helpful coping strategy.

I hope you’re just trolling here. If not, that’s disgusting behavior.

Every word was true. This was high school. My close friends tried to be supportive of the mentally unstable teacher, but the truth was that she had no business being in the classroom. She was a nice person, but an awful teacher. She stopped teacher a year after I graduated.

But I absolutely took every opportunity to make the evil teachers's life even just a little more unpleasant. He was very old and I'm certain there wasn't a single person in the school who wasn't hoping he'd retire (but no family- he worked until a year before he died). The old man tried to give me detention about 10 times, and each time I'd come with a note from the principal overruling it. Luckily it was math, so he couldn't take it out on my grade. I'd consider putting some dead flowers at his grave, but I'm sure nothing can grow there anyways.

Thinking about ways to anger him was the only thing that got me through his class, dreaming he'd either quit or drop dead of a heart attack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you not giving more details, OP? If you don't know them, you need to get them out of your daughter. This is important because right now, you have no way of knowing whether she's unreasonable or whether the teacher is truly out of line.

Story: the younger sister of one of my childhood friends started complaining about fellow students and teachers as a teen. At first, her parents believed her. It later turned out that it was paranoia, and that this teen had schizophrenia.

You absolutely need to verify as much as you can before you act on information received.

I don't think I ever heard of a case involving the onset of schizophrenia, but a few teachers had nervous breakdowns requiring leaves of absence or retirements. So yes, this does happen. Don't assume the kid is making it up.

But usually the other teachers and administrators know what is going on, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell them to have fun with it. I had a legitimately evil teacher that I set up traps to get him reprimanded by the principal. Though, I know the principal already didn't like him.

I had another teacher that was mentally unstable that other kids would try to make cry. I thought that was too mean, but other kids found it to be a helpful coping strategy.

I hope you’re just trolling here. If not, that’s disgusting behavior.

Every word was true. This was high school. My close friends tried to be supportive of the mentally unstable teacher, but the truth was that she had no business being in the classroom. She was a nice person, but an awful teacher. She stopped teacher a year after I graduated.

But I absolutely took every opportunity to make the evil teachers's life even just a little more unpleasant. He was very old and I'm certain there wasn't a single person in the school who wasn't hoping he'd retire (but no family- he worked until a year before he died). The old man tried to give me detention about 10 times, and each time I'd come with a note from the principal overruling it. Luckily it was math, so he couldn't take it out on my grade. I'd consider putting some dead flowers at his grave, but I'm sure nothing can grow there anyways.

Thinking about ways to anger him was the only thing that got me through his class, dreaming he'd either quit or drop dead of a heart attack.

You should tell this story at work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell them to have fun with it. I had a legitimately evil teacher that I set up traps to get him reprimanded by the principal. Though, I know the principal already didn't like him.

I had another teacher that was mentally unstable that other kids would try to make cry. I thought that was too mean, but other kids found it to be a helpful coping strategy.

I hope you’re just trolling here. If not, that’s disgusting behavior.

Every word was true. This was high school. My close friends tried to be supportive of the mentally unstable teacher, but the truth was that she had no business being in the classroom. She was a nice person, but an awful teacher. She stopped teacher a year after I graduated.

But I absolutely took every opportunity to make the evil teachers's life even just a little more unpleasant. He was very old and I'm certain there wasn't a single person in the school who wasn't hoping he'd retire (but no family- he worked until a year before he died). The old man tried to give me detention about 10 times, and each time I'd come with a note from the principal overruling it. Luckily it was math, so he couldn't take it out on my grade. I'd consider putting some dead flowers at his grave, but I'm sure nothing can grow there anyways.

Thinking about ways to anger him was the only thing that got me through his class, dreaming he'd either quit or drop dead of a heart attack.

Wow. I’ve never felt so bad for a teacher. That poor man. He deserved better than you for a student.

And you’ve learned nothing. Clearly.