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Anonymous
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My DC is in PK and attends an independent school. Another DC in the class ASKED my DC to kiss on the LIPS and BOTTOM (both males).... My DC told me and now ...I'm pissed.....
My DC and I are new to the school…and My DC has never displayed that type of behavior….. I strongly believe my DC is trying to fit in…at any cost…. I spoke with the teacher... They seemed shocked, but not surprised. They somewhat tried to assure me that they would speak to the other DC and the class.... But to me that's not enough! What should I do????? |
Anonymous
What else do you want to happen? Have the kid expelled? The other kid is also only 4 or 5 and is prone to acting like a 4 or 5 yr old. Just bc you're in private school doesn't mean all the kids will always be angels. |
Anonymous
| chill out |
Anonymous
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Kind of typical for 4 year olds. Kids need to be reminded about privacy of their bodies and appropriate touching -- but it doesn't mean the kid isn't perfectly normal. It's just a developmental thing.
Believe me, someday your kid will do something inappropriate and then you'll be glad that they don't expel at the drop of a hat! |
Anonymous
| Bearing in mind the child's age, unlikely there is anything sinister going on. |
Anonymous
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I have 3 kids, the youngest in K, so we've been through this age 3 times. This happens. It will be okay. You did the right thing to tell the teachers but it's usually not as sexual as we adults think. The teachers need to keep a closer eye on the kids. Maybe the kids got too wound up and goofy and physical when this happened, which would mean it was just a stupid thing said when a kid was trying to be silly. Or worse case scenerio, it was said privately by a kid who is abused. Either way, the teachers know about it and need to pay more attention. Hopefully the teachers have some skill to handle this and guidelines to follow.
You can let your child know that you are grateful that he told you and to please tell you if something like this happens again, and role play how to put his hands up and say "stop" and then go get a grown up. |
Anonymous
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I think you need to take a deep breath and calm down a little bit. They're kids - that's what kids do. Be happy that your child told you, and it sounds like the teachers had appropriate reactions to your telling them.
I also don't get your statement that your child is trying to fit in "at any cost" - what is that all about? If that were true, it seems to me he'd have gone along with the other child's suggestions and never told you - or he'd have done this to other kids himself. I think you're overreacting. |
Anonymous
The good news is that your kid sounds normal. The bad news is that you sound nuts. |
Anonymous
OMG! I thought that stuff only happened in public school! 
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Anonymous
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MY DC.... Did tell me because I teach him to be honest and tell the truth.... I also think he felt something was wrong with the kissing....
Yet.... he did go along with it.... and yes he told me.... I"m just worried... What if the other child has been abuse...and continues to act out.... He and my son consider each other best friends..... I'm worried..... |
Anonymous
| LOL. I thought you meant the child had asked your child to kiss his ass. |
Anonymous
| My child pulled her pants down when she was 4 and put wood chips in her underwear with another pre-K kid under the slide at recess. Life goes on. |
Anonymous
Of course, the area D.C. private schools and their products are bastions of sterling character, ethics and mores. That's why the solution to the country's education crisis is to simply send all kids to private school. I don't understand why the leadership doesn't get this. Do you? |
Anonymous
| when i was a kid, we played doctor. now im a doctor |
Anonymous
| Best advice here is for you to chill out. Totally normal behavior. You are the only one with the power to blow it out of proportion and make it a damaging situation. |