Bigger home or shorter commute?

[Anonymous]

If you've had to make this tradeoff, which did you pick and why?

Context: We have four kids and current home feels incredibly cramped, but is in a great location and our commutes are amazing, which gives us more time with the kids. To get a home that is more appropriate for our family size within our budget would require moving farther out into the suburbs.

[Anonymous]

Shorter commute, hands down. You can make a smaller place more efficient, you can’t claw back the time spent on commute.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're happy where you are so I wouldn't change anything. Long commutes are rough and you spend so much time on them you don't enjoy the community you've move to, IMO. You're never there except on weekends when you're tired from your hours commuting.

[Anonymous]

Short commute for your own health and for the family.

[Anonymous]

There is a huge amount of research that says that long commutes make people less happy and that you don't get used to them over time. On the other hand, although people may dislike smaller houses, you do get used to them over time and they do not reduce happiness (assuming you're not hugely crowded, like having 7 people in a two-room apartment.)

https://www.planetizen.com/node/43787?amp

https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/commute-times-unhappiness-carpooling-productivity.html

Source: The Washington Post https://share.google/q89RzmfAQuqcOuQrq

[Anonymous]

Shorter commute but importantly: how long do you plan to stay at jobs? (i.e. this is a year more than many others we've seen how job loss can come in an instant and unexpectedly.) Your job and career may change and therefore your commute.

[Anonymous]

Stay put, OP.

Declutter, see if you can rearrange furniture or redecorate in some way that will make your space feel bigger.

[Anonymous]

Long commute is soul sucking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a huge amount of research that says that long commutes make people less happy and that you don't get used to them over time. On the other hand, although people may dislike smaller houses, you do get used to them over time and they do not reduce happiness (assuming you're not hugely crowded, like having 7 people in a two-room apartment.)

https://www.planetizen.com/node/43787?amp

https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/commute-times-unhappiness-carpooling-productivity.html

Source: The Washington Post https://share.google/q89RzmfAQuqcOuQrq

+1

And the "getting used to" also goes the other way. You'll get used to your new home, and after the initial bump to your happiness, your happiness will go back to base line - it's not going to make you happier long term.

In fact, I remember reading something that the NUMBER ONE way to increase your long term, baselines happiness is to shorten your commute.

You've got four kids. Hard enough to spend enough time with them (I have three, and 1:1 time always seems in short supply). Don't increase your commute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a huge amount of research that says that long commutes make people less happy and that you don't get used to them over time. On the other hand, although people may dislike smaller houses, you do get used to them over time and they do not reduce happiness (assuming you're not hugely crowded, like having 7 people in a two-room apartment.)

https://www.planetizen.com/node/43787?amp

https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/commute-times-unhappiness-carpooling-productivity.html

Source: The Washington Post https://share.google/q89RzmfAQuqcOuQrq

+1

And the "getting used to" also goes the other way. You'll get used to your new home, and after the initial bump to your happiness, your happiness will go back to base line - it's not going to make you happier long term.

In fact, I remember reading something that the NUMBER ONE way to increase your long term, baselines happiness is to shorten your commute.

You've got four kids. Hard enough to spend enough time with them (I have three, and 1:1 time always seems in short supply). Don't increase your commute.

I'd also like to say that the time goes fast. We had a slightly cramped house, and now one kid will be moving out with the other not far behind. If they come back as adults we can reevaluate!

[Anonymous]

I would choose short commute over bigger house. Long commutes are tiring and I don’t have energy for quality time with the family after work and commute.

[Anonymous]

How much longer is the commute? You can probably find more space without a longer commute.

Chevy Chase is about 7 miles to downtown and about 30 minute drive down Connecticut.

Potomac is is about 14 miles to downtown but is also about a 30 minute drive down Canal Road.

[Anonymous]

Shorter commute. Long commutes are soul sucking, and you have no energy left for when you actually get home!

There are also renos, and ways to improve functionality in your home without moving. I'd look into that. Can you develop the basement? Add a nanny suite above a detached garage? Additions? Open up walls or reconfigure the bedrooms?

[Anonymous]

Never give up community for space. Are your kids settled into school? Have friends? Don't move them, and change schools, for more space.

[Anonymous]

We chose jobs out in the suburbs and got a short commute, big house that way. It wasn't hard either, there are tons of well paying jobs out in N VA. I specifically looked for over a year before finding the job I wanted and then we bought a house right there. DH already worked nearby.