Leading you on
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Anonymous
| Seeing someone who is only available once a week or once every few weeks for a few hours, no longer. Married or seeing someone else right? |
Anonymous
| You are being very irresponsible and immoral if you -don't- know if they are married or not. |
Anonymous
Correction. They are being irresponsible and immoral if they are dating while married. OP has no obligation to the fictional spouse of the man she knows casually. |
Anonymous
| The person says they are not married and all socials indicate they are not married. But the fact that the time spent has not changed makes me question that. |
Anonymous
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Divorced but with kids?
What do they say is the reason for their schedule? |
Anonymous
Agree. A decent woman who is conscious of her actions would avoid married men. My mom would be so ashamed if I told her I was dating a married guy. She parented me to be considerate of other people pain. |
Anonymous
| Both. |
Anonymous
awwww your mommy would be ashamed. OP has no obligation to the man she just met much less his potential spouse. If he flat out told her he was married and she continues that's one thing. But if he is hiding it and lying that's not on OP. Grow the eff up. |
Anonymous
No kids, relaxed WFH work situation too. No reason given when I bring it up, just kind of avoiding the question. |
Anonymous
| Or they are just not super into you. Maybe you're their back up person. Maybe you're just on a roster of people they are running through. Does the answer really matter that much? You both are on different pages of what you want. So end it. |
Anonymous
| If you haven't seen inside - where they live, you aren't a couple. Entirely a possibility that they are married -and you shouldn't be with them- if they aren't allowing you IN to their place. |
Anonymous
Low moral alert. |
Anonymous
| Truthfully, even if they’re not married - their limited availability is not conducive to a relationship. Why accept crumbs for yourself? |
Anonymous
| For what it's worth - a few hours once a week is all I would want to give to someone I'd just met (even if I like them very much.) Always been like that. So that is definitely a possibility. Work, hobbies, passions, exercise, perhaps kids. Ask the right questions to get what you need and make the best judgement call. |
Anonymous
| Said like someone who doesn't want an actual relationship. It's fine for some but maybe not OP. |