What boundaries do adults in your house have with social media

[Anonymous]

My wife’s social media use drives me insane but I’m not sure if it’s normal use or not. I think it’s weird that she scrolls Instagram while watching TV and the Instagrams have sound. We also have young daughters and I think it’s weird that she looks at other people on vacations that we barely know and stuff like that, I just don’t think it sets a great example.

She’s not addicted to it or anything like that and our lives are pretty together but I’m curious if this is normal? And what boundaries you have set

[Anonymous]

None because we’re not on social media. I only have one friend who likes to use it daily, to know what others are doing. I think there’s some insecurity and FOMO there.

[Anonymous]

Boundaries for adults….none. I don’t have my sound on for videos.

[Anonymous]

How about you, OP?

[Anonymous]

You can nicely ask that she mutes it when watching tv.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s just social media. Phones, laptops, video games, tv….all screen activities that take you out of the present moment and reduce interactions with others. (Unless you are playing a game together).

You have to talk to her and decide for your home how much engagement you want with each other and when. And when and how much time on a screen works for your family.

[Anonymous]

No boundaries for adults.
Maybe have a convo w your wife.

[Anonymous]

We are very rarely watching tv, but when we are, we're talking with the kids on and off about what we're watching. No phones during meals or at the table. Maybe scrolling social media while waiting for kids to finish a sport (but no sound bc there are others around) but never while sitting with them.

[Anonymous]

I purposely only have real friends as friends on social media. I don’t follow acquaintances or people I barely know. I do enjoy seeing my friends vacations and what they are up to.

My husband and I both scroll our phones at night before bed. I think most adults do this? Sometimes a movie or news may be on or mostly the tv is just off.

[Anonymous]

We ran into this recently. We committed to no Instagram on phones (desktop computer only) last year. I was way too addicted and my 8 year old daughter was noticing.

[Anonymous]

why dont you speak up or do you not have any balls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife’s social media use drives me insane but I’m not sure if it’s normal use or not. I think it’s weird that she scrolls Instagram while watching TV and the Instagrams have sound. We also have young daughters and I think it’s weird that she looks at other people on vacations that we barely know and stuff like that, I just don’t think it sets a great example.

She’s not addicted to it or anything like that and our lives are pretty together but I’m curious if this is normal? And what boundaries you have set

You want to set boundaries for your wife?

Screw off

She’s an adult you don’t control her put constraints on your porn watching

[Anonymous]

Such a beta

[Anonymous]

Same boundaries we have with watching TV.

[Anonymous]

Both my DH and I scroll while we watch TV, sitting together. If we see something funny we share with the other one. I can't imagine him policing what I do in the way that you describe. If the volume is bothering you, perhaps you can tell her to go to another room or turn it off. Other than that, you have no right to police your wife's scrolling.