Can women easily find FWBs these days?

[Anonymous]

Or is it more difficult to find than you’d think?

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t it depend on how old she is and what she looks likeon?

[Anonymous]

You clearly have a pulse, so it shouldn’t be difficult.

[Anonymous]

The F will be harder than the WB

[Anonymous]

I'm a man, but judging from what I've heard from women, it would be easy to find a man to agree to be their FWB. The hard part would be:
1. Finding such a man that they are attracted to.
2. Finding such a man who will agree to whatever parameters they set (e.g., not sleeping with other people).
3. Finding such a man who provides satisfying sex.

[Anonymous]

Inagree with the man above. I'll add a few more challenges.

4. You may not be comfortable being seen with him in public..

5. If you are comfortable being seen with him in public, he may start to feel more like a BF, and one of you may get hurt.

6. He may not be available when you want him to be. Again, a very regular FWB can start to feel like a BF.

But bottom line: it's very easy. And I think a lot more women have a FWB, or more than one, than is obvious.
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[Anonymous]

Is this a serious question?

[Anonymous]

Depends on who you are. If you are relatively attractive and have access to a lot of men who would be interested in this type of thing, it should be relatively easy. Erase either of those things, and it will get harder.

[Anonymous]

I am 43 and 5'3 and 195 lbs and I get FWB very easily all the time.

[Anonymous]

A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

I'm a woman who has had multiple FWB and this seems kind of ridiculous.

Protection: I always insist on condoms, if they won't, then we don't have sex. But most men will, I've only known one guy who absolutely refused, so we parted ways.

Not seeing other people: you have no right to insist a FWB not see other people. Even when I have one, I am dating and seeing other people. Am I sleeping with them? Usually not; usually once I start dating someone, I end the FWB relationship. But yea, once in awhile when I have a FWB, I meet a hot guy I want to sleep with and I do. I'd be absolutely furious if a FWB tried to control what I did and tell me what I can/can't do. If he doesn't like it, he can leave.

Respecting boundaries: exactly what boundaries? The boundaries that they have to be committed to you while you're free to do whatever you want? Stupid. If you're going to ban each other from seeing others, that's not FWB, that's a relationship.

No clue why there's been so many weird posts here like "my FWB is cheating!" The very definition of a FWB is that you hookup and nothing else. It's not cheating, it's not disrespecting boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

I'm a woman who has had multiple FWB and this seems kind of ridiculous.

Protection: I always insist on condoms, if they won't, then we don't have sex. But most men will, I've only known one guy who absolutely refused, so we parted ways.

Not seeing other people: you have no right to insist a FWB not see other people. Even when I have one, I am dating and seeing other people. Am I sleeping with them? Usually not; usually once I start dating someone, I end the FWB relationship. But yea, once in awhile when I have a FWB, I meet a hot guy I want to sleep with and I do. I'd be absolutely furious if a FWB tried to control what I did and tell me what I can/can't do. If he doesn't like it, he can leave.

Respecting boundaries: exactly what boundaries? The boundaries that they have to be committed to you while you're free to do whatever you want? Stupid. If you're going to ban each other from seeing others, that's not FWB, that's a relationship.

No clue why there's been so many weird posts here like "my FWB is cheating!" The very definition of a FWB is that you hookup and nothing else. It's not cheating, it's not disrespecting boundaries.

You are probably my favorite DCUM poster. A lot of people find you upsetting or threatening. I think you make sense. (I'm pretty sure you are the late forties woman who says she's still attractive, though not as attractive as when she was younger, and had two boyfriends for a while, one good in bed, the other good at conversation.)

[Anonymous]

I'm 44 105 5ft2 still appear younger my inbox is full of late 20s to mid 40s men who are hot and successful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man to have free sex with you? Of course.

A man who will also follow rules about protection and not seeing other people and respecting your boundaries? Seems unlikely.

I'm a woman who has had multiple FWB and this seems kind of ridiculous.

Protection: I always insist on condoms, if they won't, then we don't have sex. But most men will, I've only known one guy who absolutely refused, so we parted ways.

Not seeing other people: you have no right to insist a FWB not see other people. Even when I have one, I am dating and seeing other people. Am I sleeping with them? Usually not; usually once I start dating someone, I end the FWB relationship. But yea, once in awhile when I have a FWB, I meet a hot guy I want to sleep with and I do. I'd be absolutely furious if a FWB tried to control what I did and tell me what I can/can't do. If he doesn't like it, he can leave.

Respecting boundaries: exactly what boundaries? The boundaries that they have to be committed to you while you're free to do whatever you want? Stupid. If you're going to ban each other from seeing others, that's not FWB, that's a relationship.

No clue why there's been so many weird posts here like "my FWB is cheating!" The very definition of a FWB is that you hookup and nothing else. It's not cheating, it's not disrespecting boundaries.

You are probably my favorite DCUM poster. A lot of people find you upsetting or threatening. I think you make sense. (I'm pretty sure you are the late forties woman who says she's still attractive, though not as attractive as when she was younger, and had two boyfriends for a while, one good in bed, the other good at conversation.)

These answer is puzzling as I’m not sure how the lady makes it work and safe to her.
Condoms don’t protect from everything. It’s would take regular STD testing and being sexually exclusive to be 100% protected for me. And what about oral sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man, but judging from what I've heard from women, it would be easy to find a man to agree to be their FWB. The hard part would be:
1. Finding such a man that they are attracted to.
2. Finding such a man who will agree to whatever parameters they set (e.g., not sleeping with other people).
3. Finding such a man who provides satisfying sex.

How is demanding exclusivity even compatible with a FWB arrangement?