Are eating disorders common in taller women?

[Anonymous]

I am 5'10. I know I am not the tallest person in the world, but I am still taller than 99 percent of women. Being tall always made me feel massive during my teens and early/mid 20s unless I kept my BMI at 18 with a 25 inch waist. It feels like society only accepts tall women if we look like models. If we don't, people just see us as huge amazonian linebackers. I finally accepted my size now that I am in my 30s, but if I am being completely honest, a part of me is still bitter. I know I will never be small no matter how hard I try.
Most people focus on weight, but I really think height is what defines if a woman is big or small. Tall, skinny women might look statuesque, but we can never be dainty or delicate. A lot of cute romantic gestures just aren't an option because of my size. A guy is never going to easily carry me, and sitting on a guy's lap makes me feel like an overgrown dog. It is just way less cute. Short women still look delicate to me even if they are overweight because of their height and their smaller hands and feet. I recently discovered Kibbe and realized I am a Dramatic. I will be a big woman no matter my weight.

[Anonymous]

I don't know the answer to your question but I'm quite tall and muscular and my hubby can still carry me up stairs...he's also just very strong 😁😁

[Anonymous]

Think of the positives of your height, I like being able to see over other women and some men in a crowd, I can reach higher shelves…

[Anonymous]

OP. My short friends also suffer. Those under 5’2” have trouble finding men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. My short friends also suffer. Those under 5’2” have trouble finding men.

lol the avg age of DCurban users is what, 47? It’s about time we stop obsessing over men.

[Anonymous]

No, the pressure to be thin doesn’t discriminate based on size. If anything, short women have a harder time and need to be more meticulous/disordered to be thin since their pounds make a bigger visual difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. My short friends also suffer. Those under 5’2” have trouble finding men.

No, they don't unless they aren't pretty.

[Anonymous]

I’m also fairly tall, at 5’8, and I relate to everything you say OP! I may never feel small enough, and it’s so sad

[Anonymous]

Well, I'm 5'5 and suffered about 20 years with an eating disorder. In college I was in a few group therapy sessions on campus, and I don't remember anybody being especially tall there. In fact, I knew a few girls who had been involved in gymnastics, dance, and cheer in high school when their EDs started, and they were all quite petite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. My short friends also suffer. Those under 5’2” have trouble finding men.

Lol, keep telling yourself that.

[Anonymous]

I think it's the case of the grass is always greener. I am 5'2" (happily married for over 25 years, not sire where the can't get a man thing came from), and have always wished to be tall. That I didn't get claustrophobic in crowds, could reach things on the top shelf without needing a step stool or calling my spouse or child to reach it, to be able to wear flat shoes to be comfortable and still look like I fit in. Accepting who you are is key

[Anonymous]

Yes OP! Short girls can carry extra weight better than tall girls. When we have extra weight, we just look big. Sigh.

In the flip side, when tall girls are thin, they can look quite striking and really command their presence. When short girls are thin, they just look small. They’re not called striking or really seen, they’re just called “tiny” and overlooked.

[Anonymous]

I think most short women wish they were taller. I agree that “tall” seems most attractive if a woman is also thin, but at least tall women can eat more and still maintain a normal weight. Short women can barely eat anything and all extra weight shows easily. Most clothes are also designed for tall women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes OP! Short girls can carry extra weight better than tall girls. When we have extra weight, we just look big. Sigh.

In the flip side, when tall girls are thin, they can look quite striking and really command their presence. When short girls are thin, they just look small. They’re not called striking or really seen, they’re just called “tiny” and overlooked.

Not sure why you think short women can carry weight better. I’m tall and my best friend is short. A 5 lb gain for me is not even noticeable but for her it can mean a different size and she totally looks like she’s gained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 5'10. I know I am not the tallest person in the world, but I am still taller than 99 percent of women. Being tall always made me feel massive during my teens and early/mid 20s unless I kept my BMI at 18 with a 25 inch waist. It feels like society only accepts tall women if we look like models. If we don't, people just see us as huge amazonian linebackers. I finally accepted my size now that I am in my 30s, but if I am being completely honest, a part of me is still bitter. I know I will never be small no matter how hard I try.
Most people focus on weight, but I really think height is what defines if a woman is big or small. Tall, skinny women might look statuesque, but we can never be dainty or delicate. A lot of cute romantic gestures just aren't an option because of my size. A guy is never going to easily carry me, and sitting on a guy's lap makes me feel like an overgrown dog. It is just way less cute. Short women still look delicate to me even if they are overweight because of their height and their smaller hands and feet. I recently discovered Kibbe and realized I am a Dramatic. I will be a big woman no matter my weight.

It is all in your head. Just sit on guy’s laps and enjoy the moment without thinking or analyzing how it looks like.